1999 - WEEK 29

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-19/5688
From: J J Dewey
Subject: Selecting A Mate
CHAPTER 6
SELECTING A MATE
Copyright By J J Dewey
   People of the world today are greatly deceived into thinking that any two people can get along 
and be happy together if they both put forth effort, compromise and adapt. All marriage manuals, 
courses and counselors put much faith and energy into this idea and disregard the all-important 
principle of selecting the right mate to begin with. Humanity seems to have ignored this point as a 
key to happiness. While it is true that all people want to marry someone they love, they have no 
guiding principles to use that will assure them they will actually be happy. If they marry the wrong 
person, they will find that no amount of Herculean effort will bring stability to the marriage. They 
will find themselves in the most miserable of all circumstances. Even many apparently stable 
marriages are made of couples who have resigned themselves to their fate because of fear: fear 
of breaking religious or society rules, fear of being alone, fear of a lowered standard of living, fear 
of hurting the children, etc.
   In understanding the guiding principle of mate selection, we must comprehend the difference 
between male and female energies, especially as they apply to human beings. Unless this 
difference is realized and incorporated in mate selection, at least 50% of marriages will start off 
destined to doom just because of the law of averages.
   The Apostle Paul understood the difference and wrote around the idea in one of the most 
controversial and misunderstood passages in the Bible. He said: "Wives, submit yourselves unto 
your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is 
the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto 
Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing." (Ephesians 5:22-24) A 
corresponding admonition to Eve in Genesis says: "Thy desire shall be subject to thy husband, 
and he shall rule over thee." (Genesis 3:16)
   Many persons are unable to examine these scriptures objectively because they attribute their 
origination to the narrow-minded views of a male dominated society on women prevalent during 
that period. They reason that since Paul grew up in a male hierarchy, he wrote to conform to the 
thinking of that day. This is true to an extent, but we must not make the same mistake as many 
accuse Paul of doing: we must not miss the underlying truth he is presenting because our pre-
conceived views produce narrow-mindedness.
   Paul explains that this subject introduced is "a great mystery". Part of that great mystery is the 
basic difference between male and female energies, and they are indeed different.
   Paul said that wives should submit to their husbands as the head even as the husband submits 
to the Christ. This is probably the most misunderstood and abused scripture in the Bible. 
Liberated women of today instinctively rebel against subjection and rightfully shun the 
fundamentalist teaching of male totalitarian dominion. Paul had no intention of establishing family 
dictatorships, for he was speaking of male and female energies, BOTH OF WHICH EXIST IN 
EACH SEX.
   Male energy is the sending, or radiant, energy. Female energy is the receiving, or magnetic, 
energy. The mind is a male energy, emotional energy is female; therefore, the male has the 
energies that control and direct and teach, whereas the female has energies that must learn and 
be intelligently controlled and directed to obtain stability. On a physical level, the male is the 
sower of the seed, the female is the receiver of the seed and conceives. On a mental level, the 
male is the initiator of ideas through his mental energies; the female nurtures and grows the fruit 
of his ideas through her emotional energies; the fluid (emotions) of her mental "womb", which 
creates form, provides nourishment for their creation, the child of their combined energies. 
Through the mental intercourse between male and female energy, powerful thought (male) forms 
(female) are created. The old saying, "Behind every great man is a great woman" reveals the 
truth of the interaction of these energies.
   This is even true when the physical female is dominate in a male society. She dominates 
through male energy and if she has a male companion he becomes female to her even though he 
has a male body.
   The interplay of male and female energies create balance throughout the universe; one is not 
greater than the other. They are two equal aspects of the one energy of Purpose.
   In fact these two energies have their own spheres of dominance. In the physical world the male 
is dominate which is evidenced by his stronger body. His strength easily enables him to 
overcome the female if he so desires.
   However in the next sphere of livingness, the world of feeling, the female is heavily dominate. 
Her emotional strength is much stronger than the male and when the female uses this energy as 
a lever in the relationship the male usually feels overwhelmed and will yield to the female despite 
his superior physical strength.
   Then again the male energy dominates on the next level, the mental. This is why there are 
more male engineers, mathematicians, inventors and jobs that require pure mental calculations.
   But then again the female dominates on the next level still which is the intuitive. The female is 
much more sensitive to higher perceptions beyond the mind as well as much more believing of 
things the mind cannot explain.
   Thus we can see hat among these four levels of consciousness and perception that the 
dominance of the two energies is very equalized.
   It is true that at various points in time one or the other energy is dominate. During periods of 
involution (descent into matter), female energy is dominate, and during evolution (ascent out of 
matter), male energy is dominate. Female energy draws us into matter and creates form, as did 
Eve symbolically draw Adam and the world into matter and form by eating of the forbidden fruit, 
which is called the Fall of Man. Male energy pulls us out of matter into spirit, as did the Christ in 
allowing himself to be crucified so that he could raise the physical body to the plane of the spirit. 
Both directions are necessary to fulfill the Plan of God in bringing about the creative purpose of 
the One Life.
   The female energy takes us into the world of experience, and, after we have played and 
experimented in the "playground of the Gods," the male energy takes us back home.
   We must remember that each of us possesses both of these energies no matter which body we 
occupy. We must all play out roles of being both sender and receiver, but our souls are attracted 
to either a male or female body in a certain life because, at that point in time, our life force is 
charged or polarized in that direction; this charge fluctuates in us all from life to life. Thus, if one 
presently finds herself in a female body, this is an indication that her soul needs to be polarized in 
that energy to achieve maximum progress and fulfillment through learning and receiving. If one 
finds himself in a male body, then he must be a sender, initiator, and teacher to satisfy his soul 
direction. To achieve complete fulfillment, however, we must balance and use both energies 
within us. The fact that we find ourselves in either a male or female body is merely a statement of 
our soul's intention that one or the other energy should be dominant, and that we should place 
our attention there.
   Paul clearly explains how this subjection of female to male energy is to occur; it is unfortunate 
that conservative religions have used his teachings as an excuse to deny the female her freedom 
of expression and limit her freedom of agency and movement.
   Paul tells wives to submit to their husbands "as unto the Lord" and "as the church (form) is 
subject to Christ (spirit)." In viewing this scripture, all religions have overlooked the all-important 
point that a woman cannot submit herself to her husband as unto the Lord if her husband is in a 
lower state of spiritual evolution than herself. In a marriage relationship, the mate who is at the 
highest point of progression automatically assumes the role of the sending male energy and 
becomes the initiator-sender between the two. If a woman, then, marries a man who is at a lower 
point in evolution and submits herself to him, this corresponds to error of Christ submitting himself 
to the Church . It would obviously be wrong for Christ to do this because neither party would 
benefit or progress.
   The Church has nothing to teach Christ and looses its spiritual life when it tries to assume His 
role. Unfortunately, this is currently the case. The Church tries to conform the teachings of Christ 
to its ends and dominion rather than the other way around. Consequently, the spiritual life is 
virtually non existent.
   How many spiritually evolved women have been commanded by their religious teachers to 
submit to their husbands who are less intelligent than themselves? By the law of averages, about 
50% of all women pick such mates and by submitting to them, they find themselves in a very 
uncomfortable and unfulfilling position. Because they are more evolved, they find themselves 
automatically in the position of the sender-male trying to submit to their husbands, who are 
receiver-females. Thus, neither party in the relationship is able to balance their energies and both 
are unhappy no matter how close their personality interests are and how much they strive for 
harmony.
   Woman, by nature, must put her attention on balancing her receiving energies to receive 
fulfillment and fullness of joy in marriage. Since the male energies are those which are leading us 
toward evolution, then she must find a mate that she can receive evolutionary inspiration from. 
Therefore, to fulfill her destiny, a woman must find a male more spiritually evolved than herself or 
else she CANNOT become a receiver as the church is a receiver from Christ.
   We realize that within one short lifetime that this is not possible for all. Nevertheless, if the 
female finds herself in a sending position it is much better for her to play out this role of the male 
energy rather than trying to submit to a male of lower evolution.
   This point is of extreme importance, for the abuse of it is the root cause of one half of all 
married couples being unsatisfied. If each female made it a point to marry a man more spiritually 
evolved than herself to enable her to become a willing receiver, the marriage success rate would 
jump to about 75%. A success rate higher than this is improbable, for about 25% of all men and 
women cannot be happy with anyone and are not evolved enough to establish a good bonding 
relationship. Nevertheless, 75% is a great improvement over 25%. The application of this one 
principle alone could almost bring in the millennium of peace envisioned by Christianity. (These 
percentages are rough approximations.)
   Paul explains the type of relationship the husband should have with the wife: "Husband, love 
your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify 
and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the word . That he might present it to himself a 
glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and 
without blemish". (Eph 5:25-27) Just as Christ must be more spiritually evolved than the church 
before he can "sanctify" and teach it, so must the husband have higher knowledge and spirituality 
and be able to teach his wife if he is to play the role of the sender.
   This does not mean that the male species is more evolved as a whole than the female, but it 
does mean that to find fulfillment, the individual female must find a man more spiritually evolved 
(or close to being equal) than herself if she is to find a stable, completely fulfilling marriage bond. 
One can still have a reasonable marriage relationship with the roles reversed, but we are looking 
for the optimum here.
   Female energies are receiving energies and if they are united with a male that cannot send to 
them, then they will find that they must TAKE. When the female finds herself in a taking situation, 
she often does so quite forcefully to the consternation of both herself and her mate. Her energies 
force her to be a receiver or taker. She becomes very unstable if she resists this natural energy 
flow.
   The male finds himself in a position of either being a natural sender in the relationship or of 
having his energies "taken" from him. He finds that his soul directs him to be a sender one way or 
another: either by giving it or by having the female take from him. If he resists this energy flow, he 
is unstable.
   True fulfillment only comes when the male is the natural sender and the female the natural 
receiver.
   To achieve this fulfillment, two things must happen:
First, men and women seeking mates must recognize their natural energy flow and the female 
must seek a male who is at a higher point of evolution than herself. Thus, the haphazard and 
random mate selection of today must be replaced by a more scientific one. People must learn to 
judge with a fair degree of effectiveness the pure intelligence of potential marriage partners. Once 
it is known what to look for, the female will realize that she cannot be satisfied with a man who 
cannot naturally send to her.
   Secondly, the whole marriage order should be changed. About 50% of married couples are 
unhappy because they are with the wrong mate. The solution, as we pointed out, is not a 
marriage course or counseling. The solution, unfortunately, is a rather drastic one (from society's 
point of view): divorce, and remarriage to mates that balance their energies;.
   "But", says the objector, "divorce is bad. It breaks up families, hurts people and is hard on the 
children..."
In many cases this is true. Many children are sacrificed for selfish purposes when the only real 
reason for a break up is a desire for a new experience. On the contrary, a bad marriage is worse 
than divorce. No stable family is created, individuals are hurt daily, and it is much more damaging 
for the children than living with a single responsible parent.
   Each woman should examine her mate and ask: Am I unhappy because I am unable to receive 
from him? Men should ask: Am I unfulfilled because I cannot send to her? If the answer is "yes" , 
then one should strongly consider divorce and remarriage. If children are involved, such a 
decision is doubly difficult, but it must be realized that an imbalance of energy affects the children 
and that a divorce and correct remarriage will actually benefit them. Under the influence of 
balanced energies, the children will tend to be more stable.
   In the case of a divorce both parents should do all in their power to see that the children are 
under the influence of both a mother and a father. It is sad that in many cases one parent will be 
vindictive and sabotage the relationship of the other spouse with the children. This can create a 
no win situation.
   Nevertheless, a black and white attitude in this and all matters should be avoided;. The soul 
may direct a person to stay with a mate for overriding reasons, but generally, the short period of 
pain following a divorce is nothing compared to the daily pain of a bad marriage on all family 
members.
   In selecting a spouse, the female should not only choose one of a higher evolution, but also one 
fairly close to her own consciousness. If there is a large gap in evolution between husband and 
wife, even if the husband is more evolved than the wife, there will also be problems and the bond 
will be weak. In the case where the man marries a woman too far below him, he will be unable to 
give to her in fullness because she will not fully appreciate what he has to offer. If we correspond 
the evolution of mankind with the numbers one through ten, then we will find that males who are a 
10 should marry an 8 or 9. If he were to marry a 6 or lower, there would be a gap that would 
prevent the formation of a strong bond and a stable human Molecule becomes impossible.
   If a female feels she is a 10 and cannot find a man of higher evolution, yet feels she must get 
married, then she should select a man as close to herself as possible in progression. Not 
everyone will find complete fulfillment in relationships in any one life, even if they have complete 
knowledge, but that knowledge can lead them toward a fullness of joy that their soul cannot 
withhold from them if they do not cease seeking.
   The female who is a 10 in evolution and cannot find a sending physical male will find her 
spiritual fulfillment and balance in higher contacts that she will make A major objection many may 
have to divorce will be on religious beliefs, but this should not be a deterrent if one examines the 
Bible. Jesus gives the one reason that couples may justifiably divorce: "But I say unto you, That 
whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit 
adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery". (Matt. 5:32)
   Here we have another scripture that has been greatly misunderstood and has caused much 
trouble in the world. Many religions have forbidden divorce because of these words of Jesus.
   Notice that Jesus said that the only justifiable cause of divorce is "fornication". The prevalent 
belief among Christians is that fornication is sex between two unmarried persons or between two 
married people not married to each other. But here Jesus uses fornication as an act between 
married couples. Therefore, the meaning intended by Jesus is not the one attributed to the word 
by people of today.
   Actually, fornication may not even involve sex, for in the context it is used throughout the Bible, 
it means "to be alienated from" or "to remove one's heart from".
   Thus, if the wife's heart is alienated from her husband, he may justifiably divorce her. God often 
called Israel his wife and when she committed fornication against Him and removed her heart 
from the true God and worshipped idols, she committed fornication against Him and He gave 
Israel, his wife, a bill of divorcement.
   Thus, it is with people. If their energies are not correctly matched and balanced, they commit 
fornication and become alienated and should get a divorce.
   On the other hand, if their energies are balanced and the husband divorces a wife who has 
given her heart to him, he "causeth her to commit adultery". In other words, he causes her heart 
to forcibly seek someone else who may be at a wrong point of evolution. "And whosoever shall 
marry her that is divorced (wrongfully divorced) committeth adultery". If a man marries a woman 
whose heart is still with her original husband, there is produced an imbalance of energy and this 
is what true adultery and fornication are.
   The question will naturally arise as to how one is to find another at the correct point of evolution. 
How is one to tell whether or not he is a five, seven, or ten?
   Pinpointing a person's correct point of evolution is indeed difficult. We could take pages 
outlining an approximate procedure, but even if correct principles are spelled out the average 
person would not use them correctly. In mate selection, the primary concept that should concern 
the female is the question: Is the man, I am considering capable of sending to me and stimulating 
my spiritual evolution? Can he teach me and lift me up to higher realms of consciousness? Does 
he comprehend true principles faster than I do? Does a natural giving come from him to me? Am I 
close to him in spiritual evolution? Do I feel confident in trusting his judgment?
   The male should ask himself: Does she seem to be leading me or do I naturally tend to lead 
her? Do I enjoy telling her things I believe? Am I able to teach her and pull her up to a higher 
consciousness? Does she respond when I mentally give to her? Does she love me for my mind 
as well as emotional stimulation? Am I the natural giver and she the natural receiver in the 
relationship?
   Both parties should seek for confirmation in the relationship from their own souls and intuition 
through prayer, meditation, or contemplation. If their marriage is the right direction they can both 
receive an endowment of soul energy as a spiritual testimony to the correctness of their 
relationship. If they desire further confirmation they may seek the advice of another who they 
respect as a person of high spiritual evolution. This third person may then receive a revelation for 
them as a second establishing witness. Nevertheless, individual soul confirmation must always be 
the supreme influence.
   Question: Rick brings up an interesting point of discussion. There are many who are in male 
bodies who feel a strong pull in the female direction and many in the female who feel a strong pull 
in the male. We have given hints as to why this is so. What do you think?
   And what about gays? What kind of charge in energy would males and females have in this 
situation and why?

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-199/5689
From: Travis Tabbal
Subject: Re: Service
   J J Dewey wrote: possible. In fact when one first enters upon the path it is sometimes difficult to 
think or be concerned with anything else. The aspirant desires to climb and learn and progress 
with almost an obsession at times. He may be happy to rub shoulders with other seekers and 
share knowledge to a degree, but to serve others at the expense of his learning and progression 
is often far from his mind."
   I think people loose sight of that fact that to REALLY learn something, you must teach it. I have 
found many times that I thought I knew something really well only to try and teach someone and 
find that I haven't seen all the possibilities.
   "The Ancient of Days who is the voice for the Planetary Logos set the example for us."
   Planetary Logos??? huh?
   "One may ask: "Doesn't everyone accept freedom?"
Nope. Very few people understand freedom. Many think they support it, but then something 
comes up and they want to restrict it. Take one hot issue on the 'net of late: Porn. Many people 
don't like it for one reason or another. Many would love to see it censored. I can understand 
keeping kids out, and rules against kiddie porn. But if everyone involved is of legal age, I fail to 
see the problem. This is one of those areas that I say "I may not like what you do, but if you are 
not hurting anyone else by doing it I will defend to the death your right to do it."
   "Glenys spoke wisely when she said: "The attitude seems to be 'we believe in freedom for all as 
long as it is our definition of freedom that we're talking about."
   I agree. I could not put it better than that. ;)
   "If one is unbiased he will see the virtues of both arguments but few seem to be objective here."
   Abortion is a hard one to be objective about. However, whatever I may think of it I don't think it's 
the government's place to make a call like that. So I must leave it to the people directly involved 
in each case and hope they make the best decision they can. I consider this following the highest 
I know. I would rather see the child born and given up for adoption, there are many people who 
would be great parents but cannot have children themselves for some reason. I see that as the 
best solution for everyone. But I also feel that to take away another's freedom of decision is 
harmful. The only method I have heard about I would call murder directly is "partial birth abortion", 
where the baby is in the process if being born and is killed before the full birth. While in the womb, 
it's hard to determine where "life" or "sentience" begins. Since I can't decide for myself, I don't 
support the government's, or anyone not directly involved to make the decision for the rest of us. 
As much as it may pain me to hear about abortion taking place, it pains me more to see people's 
power of decision erased.
   I'll accept that some consider all abortion murder. And I respect your right to decide that, for 
yourself. Please accept others rights to decide since not even science can determine it. If it 
cannot be proven, it is opinion, not fact. Laws should never be written based on opinion.
   "We are going to explore this important principle in more detail. Question: If both sides of the 
fence have their arguments for freedom how does one decide which decision to make or which 
side to take?"
   "Let us take an example. The State decides to increase taxes of the people without their 
consent and give the money to retired people."
   "The results are that the people taxed have less freedom, but the retired people have more 
freedom."
   "Since one group of people are being given more freedom is the basic principle of freedom 
being followed here? If not, why?"
   No, the principle of freedom is not being followed. To steal, for whatever reason, is to break the 
principle of freedom and harmlessness. And taxation is stealing, plain and simple. It is the 
removal of something that someone works for by another person or group without the decision of 
the owner. It does not matter that the "government" did it. Consider this: If I were an employer 
and paid someone an hourly wage of $6 and decided to "tax" $2/hr of that wage, I am stealing. I 
could say it pays for the bathrooms or some such, but the fact remains that I agreed to pay 
someone $6/hr and I only let them have $4/hr. I work 100+ days out of the year before I make 
any money. The government gets that. That is stealing.
   Now, consider the scenario where I decide I am NOT going to let them take my money. Well, 
they will huff and puff for a while then decide to seize my property. Say I own a reasonably nice 
house. They come in to evict me and take my house away. They can also freeze my bank 
accounts etc.. So they show up to take my house. Say I decide to defend my property. They are 
trying to steal it, I am defending it. They will come in with the police, and probably the army (if I'm 
armed) and I will probably die defending my property. And according to government, I would be in 
the wrong. Why? Because I wanted to keep what was mine.
   It is quite literally highway robbery. They are pointing guns at me and saying "Your money, or 
your life". (Incidentally, there is an excellent book by that title available discussing this issue) If I 
refuse to give them my money I will lose my life, either by getting killed defending it, or getting 
thrown in prison. Oh, and I don't get a jury trial, or even due process before they can steal 
everything I own! I have to prove I'm NOT guilty, to a judge. "innocent until proven guilty" doesn't 
apply in tax cases. And the IRS is exempt from most of the laws our police are subject to 
regarding search and seizure and civil rights. This is all a direct result of income tax. Because in 
order to collect the taxes, they can't have anything in the way that may slow the flow of money. 
And people have a desire to keep what is theirs. So they try everything they can to do so. Thus 
the taxman needs broad sweeping power to keep the money coming in to keep the government's 
huge wasteful programs going.
   Not to mention, this takes away money that I could be saving for when I have to retire! Now I 
don't have any money to save, and could become dependant on government handouts when I 
get old. This type of program creates a cycle of dependency that is difficult to break. And it 
removes my freedom of decision, of what to do with the compensation I receive from my job. I 
should be free to decide how to use the funds I receive from a hard day at work. I shouldn't have 
to participate in a government retirement program that I don't want to be part of. I should be able 
to "opt out" if I want to. Meaning that I am not eligible for benefits, but I don't have to pay for them 
either. Social Security has an overhead approaching 80%! This is money spent of the 
beauracrats, that cannot go to the elderly that were promised help. If a private company were run 
like that, it would go under quicker then you can blink. But the government just steals more 
money from the rest of us to make up for the losses!! There is NO excuse for this.
   It should be noted that before the government got into the act, forcing everyone to give up their 
money, Americans were the most charitable people on earth. Maybe we still are, but it's hard to 
be charitable when you're having 30%+ of your paycheck stolen right off the top. Now many 
people feel that since the government keeps using the poor or the old or whatever charity cause it 
is this week as an excuse to keep raising taxes that the government should be taking care of it. 
And it's not. It can't. It's too wasteful for that. The poor were BETTER OFF before the government 
got involved. So were the elderly! Personally, I'd love to be able to help others. And I do when I 
can. But most of the time I'm strapped for cash attempting to take care of my needs and have 
little left for giving away. If I had that other 30% available, I would be much more able to help 
others.
   This is becoming a rant, so I will close with a proposed solution for the problem JJ stated. The 
old people. Dismantle the social security system and buy insurance policies from a private firm to 
manage the payments and such they were promised. Sell off all the equipment the social security 
administration uses, and take all the salaries from the employees and use that money to pay for 
the insurance. This must be private sector insurance, no more government. Stop taking money 
from the people when the insurance is paid for. And make it clear that everyone is responsible for 
themselves. Those of us that are not elderly can fend for ourselves with IRAs and such. We don't 
need the government. And if we are irresponsible and don't take care of it, it's our problem.
   Oh, and pull out those tax forms and look at the line for how much you had to pay in taxes last 
year. No, not the refund line. Up above, before the calculation for how much you already paid via 
withholding. How much they figure you should have paid them. Consider if everyone were asked 
to pay that on April 15 (no withholding during the year). If everyone were told to pay up 30% of 
their yearly earnings on April 15, to actually write a check to the government for it, I firmly believe 
there would be an uprising of the people and civil war. Personally, I'm surprised it hasn't 
happened already. As a people, we are in worse shape then the colonists were when they rose 
up and created this country. 30% is just income tax. That doesn't include all the other taxes you 
pay. IIRC, all that's missing is for the government to ban guns, then we'll be in similar shape to 
the original 13 colonies.
Travis

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-19/5690
From: Paul Yu
Subject: Re: Selecting A Mate
Hi J J and everyone,
   Polarity is an aspect of the universal structure of triad. In the triad of the mental, emotional and 
physical aspects of the human personality the polarity is consisted of the mental and physical 
bodies rather than the mental and the emotional. The emotional body permeates both the mental 
and the physical bodies. Thus on the side of the mental body the emotions are active in nature 
being the result of the giving aspect of love and on the side of the physical body the emotions are 
passive in nature being the result of the receiving aspect of love. Man's and woman's emotions 
are characteristically different from each other as the male polarity is on the mental side and the 
female polarity on the physical side. Men usually react emotionally to reasons while women to 
consequences. Men normally react emotionally so as to forcefully and methodically carry out 
plans while women normally react emotionally so as to flexibly and realistically endure and 
tolerate concrete situations to achieve results. Consequently men are typically more rational than 
intuitive and women more intuitive than rational.
   Emotions is the bridge between the mind and the body. Emotions are wherever thoughts are as 
well as wherever activities are. It is neutral or rather share the space of both the mind and the 
body. Emotions are the forces to manifest the will of the mind expressed through thoughts as well 
as the forces to carry out that will coupled with love or desire by means of activities.
Paul Yu
SpiritualityABC
SpiritualityESOTERIC
http://onelist.com

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-19/5691
From: John Kosior
Subject: Re: Selecting A Mate
   J J Dewey wrote: "Question: Rick brings up an interesting point of discussion. There are many 
who are in male bodies who feel a strong pull in the female direction and many in the female who 
feel a strong pull in the male. We have given hints as to why this is so. What do you think?"
Hi All,
   These are issues which seem to perplex the many people with which I associate. Even those 
who are the most highly evolved within their sphere of thinking and who believe they have 
uncovered the mystery of it all can often be extremely deluded. It seems apparent to me that due 
to an overwhelming desire and pull toward balance, many folks who are endowed with otherwise 
high initiative and intelligence go out to "find" their own balance. And the methods they employ in 
the finding are legion. Some will use a static method, where they isolate themselves from all deep 
association with others, whether that be mental, spiritual, or even sexual. When this occurs, the 
mind will center upon itself to such a degree that it beholds its own "imbalance" toward the male 
or female energy. Then, almost by instinct, what they pursue becomes an experience within their 
isolated self that they feel will bring them toward an experience of balance. All of which seems 
like highly evolved thinking, but in reality, is only a form of spiritual masturbation. Whether they 
invoke this knowingly or blindly, the result becomes an impossible journey filled with confusion. 
For no matter which side they identify with in any moment, they cannot of themselves achieve 
absolute balance. This is due to the over all design of creation and life within this realm. That 
design demands that we seek another to balance ourselves and one for which we might hold 
balance. This is the force which propels creation into evoluting beyond itself. As such, it is the 
highest good and when understood will inevitably foster great joy. But before full understanding, if 
one is resolute in the finding of their own balance, it's easy to see why they find themselves 
confused and playing out roles that are not always in their own best interest.
   But before I begin to sound judgmental in this regard, I must say that these people are no more 
to be judged than one who pursues happiness by way of financial success, or safety by way of 
domination. They are each merely on a step of learning or a revealing plateau from which they 
will eventually discover that the answer to their pressing need for security or balance is satisfied 
by embracing their imbalance, rather than pursuing their balance.
   "And what about gays? What kind of charge in energy would males and females have in this 
situation and why?"
   These folks are those who have convinced themselves that they need not receive balance from 
the "opposing" energy of the opposite sex. Their error is not in their sexuality, but in seeing the 
other sex as an opposition to their own balance, rather than one of its key elements. Most gay 
folks that I have known are extremely intelligent and insightful. But inside of their advanced 
intellect, you will always find one bent arrow which every time it's used, always misses the target. 
Such, then the greatest need for those in a gay lifestyle is not found in guilt from nor defense of 
their position, but in a reevaluation of their motivation toward balance. If one could infuse 
themselves with the understanding that JJ is offering in the Molecular Relationship, the result 
would be the straightening of the arrow, and a healing of all the wounds they have suffered. Even 
the wounds which were given them by members of the opposite sex.
   Overall, I must say that this is one of the final key elements to be understood by humanity in 
this age. Those who receive this key will very quickly resolve the contradiction that has before 
driven them to seek balance in the sameness of another, rather than allowing the experience of 
true balance to occur from within the differentness of another.
   Thanks JJ. This series of chapters you've shared are among the most clear and engaging I've 
found on not just the importance of balance, but also the path to balance.
With All Blessings,
John

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-19/5692
From: "David Curtis"
Subject: Re: Selecting A Mate
   J J Dewey writes: "Question: Rick brings up an interesting point of discussion. There are many 
who are in male bodies who feel a strong pull in the female direction and many in the female who 
feel a strong pull in the male. We have given hints as to why this is so. What do you think?" And 
what about gays? What kind of charge in energy would males and females have in this situation 
and why?"
   Here is a wild guess, but it's something I was once taught by another teacher in the past. Let's 
say you are on life 500, and you just spend the last 350 as a female. Then, suddenly, you decide 
you are going to be male in this life. The transition from female to male could be anything but 
smooth. It may be difficult for the individual in question to accept their life as a male, and they 
may still feel a strong pull from the female side. So it may take a couple of lives as a male to get 
used to the concept. This could also explain gays. After being female for so many lifetimes, and 
choosing male, they may still feel a strong attraction to the male sex. After a lifetime or two as a 
male, the physical attraction to the opposite sex should become so strong they can no longer 
resist it, and they should be realigned with their true male energies.
- Dave

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-19/5693
From: John Kosior
Subject: Tolerance (OT)
Hi Folks,
   I came home late last night from hanging out with a new friend. One who I've considered to be 
of high understanding. But before I left my friends house, I found myself being put on a spiritual 
operating table by the very one I had such respect for. He simply tried to pull me apart, and 
basically called every item of thought I had "dimestore philosophy". Now to scratch my ego, you'd 
have to have much longer arms than that, but I find myself saddened to find that nothing I can say 
and nothing I can do can break through this ultimate field of illusion. Neither does this have effect 
on the ego, but it's striking some major chords in my compassion. So anyway, when I arrived 
home I wrote a few verses that reflected the intensity I was feeling at the time. This wasn't done 
for the purpose of delivery, but I thought I'd share with all of you, and perhaps then I can let this 
go. So here it is. It's my reaction to the brick wall of tolerance.
Tolerance
***
You see they smile all the time
But they're just making you think their mind
While all the while you hear them say
That they really don't care anyway
***
They'll tolerate your crazy things
Unless of course to them it brings
The slightest change or variation
Upon their knowing explanation
***
I find my heart and mind are reeling
From the deepest sense of what I'm feeling
That just beyond the golden dome
It's really only steel and chrome
***
And steel and chrome are never warm
They're cold and hard and don't conform
They mold and form and tolerate
But they buckle under a little weight
***
Were chrome not hidden behind the gold
With stories lied when stories told
Then beauty and goodness might just come through
Friendship found. Friendship true.
***
If only I could have seen before
The open mind behind a door
I would have known to save the day
And never sent my mind away
***
But then they smile all the time
And still they try to read your mind
They only see what they want to see
But with all they know they don't know me
***
The soul and mind and flesh and life
None are safe from the wielding knife
Which cuts in deep so it can see
Whatever it wishes to see in me
***
But far above the noisy din
The place I dwell. The place within
I see the act. I see the show
And try to bend so they can grow
***
But I'm so tired of this fragrant strife
With words like peace and words like life
Perhaps with love or benevolence
I'll overcome their tolerance
***
Thanks for reading the thoughts I have. It helps to have others who listen. It helps to keep me 
from exploding. :) 
With Peaceful Blessings,
John

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-19/5694
From: (Richard/ Sharon)
Subject: Tolerance OT
   Hi John, you write so beautifully and so insightfully, i guess we all must learn in our own way 
that just because someone presents themselves as being on the spiritual path, doesn't mean they 
are, we have found those that have discovered many spiritual seekers are nothing more than 
"easy pickin's" for them, and then those that simply want to prove us wrong and foolish for 
whatever warped reasons of their own, thank goodness for this list, we feel so much more 
comfortable with this family we have never met in the physical, but our souls seem to have 
touched. in sincere and deep love, sharon & richard ^I^ ^I^

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-19/5695
From: John Kosior
Subject: (OT) More Verse
***
I wish I had some way to say
These things in verse in a normal way
But since my mind is so inclined
I hope all of you won't mind
***
If I take this time to help break through
To greener land and cleaner dew
As you can tell I'm a bit befuddled
So I look for friends with which to huddle
***
And take some time to analyze 
These thoughts that I just now realize
That even at my level best
I cannot reach all the rest
***
And painful thoughts of other's woe
It just hurts my heart when they won't grow
And even though it's not forever
They hurt themselves from their endeavor
***
To see and mind our brothers and friends
Seems ever so simple, our means to all ends
So why would they struggle and why do they fight
Only so to know they're right?
***
I know it's true, I've seen their quiver
Refusing to hear what I might deliver
But furthest from what's understood
I wonder why they think I would
***
Describe the things that they do not see
Don't they know it's what they do for me
If only Presence would intervene
I wonder what would then be seen
***
I'm hardly looking for flashing lights
And sure I'm not afraid to fight
But I've reached a wall I cannot scale
I can't succeed and dare not fail
***
Now I sense what you might say
"Hold on to right, that's the way"
And speak from heart with mind and Presence
But I must try to describe the essence
***
Of things I care. For things I fight
That I might help one get it right
For if one in my circle falls
It's more than them which darkness calls
***
For in the darkest black of night
What we each need is to shine some light
On things which falter and hurt our friends
Their life is what we will defend
***
So realize this is not just verse
As I didn't need to rehearse
These things which flow like conversation
I only speak from adoration
***
I love God's creatures, both big and small
They are all the beloved of the All
So I cannot stop these thoughts and quips
They seem to roll from off my lips
***
For reasons more than I can know
I think it's love that makes things grow
And if loving arms can embrace the beast
We'll love much more. But that's just the least
***
We'll also turn gray skies to blue
With our hearts revealed Both me and you
We'll look to east and we'll look to west
And in both places we'll find rest
***
But only when all things are known
Can we ever share what we've been shone
So if you find a way to share
Be bold and strong and don't beware
***
For they'll hate you and need you at the same time
They'll trash you and fight you No reason or rhyme
All in defense of things that they know
Instead of just helping each other to grow
***
I wish I could measure my words down to one
But perfect I'm not but just wait, I'm not done
"In light and in laughter" I think Zia would say
I'll mind this in thought, I think it's the way
***
But before I bid you a fond farewell
There is one more thing that I think I must tell
I love you and need you to be all that you can
For the better you are, the better I am
***
I hope that I've caused no undue offense
I hope that you'll understand my defense
I hope that you know I hope you won't quit
For in the hope of our friendship, a candle is lit

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-19/5696
From: Marilyn Maple
Subject: Re: Tolerance (OT)
   John, this is BEAUTIFUL. Thank you for sharing such soul searching thoughts & feelings. You 
have put into words what I've felt for years about the way my family reacts to my beliefs & growth.
Namaste'
AnglNTrng2 (Mare)

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5697
From: Rick Audette
Subject: Re: Selecting A Mate
   John says "Even those who are the most highly evolved within their sphere of thinking and who 
believe they have uncovered the mystery of it all can often be extremely deluded. It seems 
apparent to me that due to an overwhelming desire and pull toward balance, many folks who are 
endowed with otherwise high initiative and intelligence go out to "find" their own balance. And the 
methods they employ in the finding are legion. Some will use a static method, where they isolate 
themselves from all deep association with others, whether that be mental, spiritual, or even 
sexual. When this occurs, the mind will center upon itself to such a degree that it beholds its own 
"imbalance" toward the male or female energy. Then, almost by instinct, what they pursue 
becomes an experience within their isolated self that they feel will bring them toward an 
experience of balance. All of which seems like highly evolved thinking, but in reality, is only a form 
of spiritual masturbation. Whether they invoke this knowingly or blindly, the result becomes an 
impossible journey filled with confusion. For no matter which side they identify with in any 
moment, they cannot of themselves achieve absolute balance. This is due to the over all design 
of creation and life within this realm. That design demands that we seek another to balance 
ourselves and one for which we might hold balance. This is the force which propels creation into 
evoluting beyond itself. As such, it is the highest good and when understood will inevitably foster 
great joy. But before full understanding, if one is resolute in the finding of their own balance, it's 
easy to see why they find themselves confused and playing out roles that are not always in their 
own best interest. But before I begin to sound judgmental in this regard, I must say that these 
people are no more to be judged than one who pursues happiness by way of financial success, or 
safety by way of domination. They are each merely on a step of learning or a revealing plateau 
from which they will eventually discover that the answer to their pressing need for security or 
balance is satisfied by embracing their imbalance, rather than pursuing their balance."
   I have to agree with all of this. I would like to clarify, in my own case, this is what is being played 
out, because my physical vehicle predisposes me to playing out the game on that field. But, just 
because that is what I have to work with, doesn't mean I am not aware of the fact that I am only 
playing a game. I have known, since childhood, that I had an important masculine mission to 
perform in this life. Thirty-one years ago, I wrote in my diary that it would someday be my job to 
lead a large family or tribe, something like being an Indian Chief. I have been in countless 
leadership positions, from the time I was a Cub Scout, through numerous foreman positions, 
elected public office and now the founder of perhaps the best little mail list in cyber space. I have 
had jobs that are about as macho as they come and still found myself in charge. I have fought in 
hand to hand combat, armed only with a pocket knife, and won over much larger guys than me.
   Problem is, in this day in age, there are darn few women that are feminine enough to be a good 
match to the male energies in me. The few I have met were already paired up and I am too much 
of a gentleman to mess with that. I've been through three marriages that didn't work. The lack of 
adequate femininity seems to lead me to manufacturing my own, but I know I am only creating a 
plastic model of the real thing and would drop it, in a heart beat, if the real thing came along. I 
benefit from playing at it, because I play it well and can gain, from my own self, what is lacking in 
the real world. I've painted such a good picture of the feminine that it's scary at times. "Rebecca" 
gets about ten times more hits on her web page, mostly from guys. Hopefully, by painting a clear 
picture of what I want, I'll have a better chance of knowing it when I see the real thing. Despite all 
the pain in the past, I'm still looking for the woman that would be the match for me. Something 
tells me, the best place to look might very well be among Keysters, present or future, but beyond 
that, not so subtle, hint I'll drop the subject, because my fem side knows what a turn off a man on 
the make can be. Okay, enough out of me for one night, I'll climb back up into my tree and sleep.
Your BROTHER,
Rick
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Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5698
From: "Christopher Wynter"
Subject: The Male/Female Thingy
   Perhaps ...it would be wise to consider that most men spend approximately the first nine 
months of their lives in the environment of the female womb ... and then spend the next few years 
dependant on 'Mother' for their survival ...
   During this time the fetus is imprinted by conscious and unconscious thought projections from 
the mother ... which, depending on the level of their intensity, can (and do) cause physical 
mutation in the hypothalamus which is the response centre within the brain for the coping/reaction 
function.
   During this time your perception of your own soul was defined by mother's thoughts ...
   Before either male or female can attain any spirituality, the belief that "Mother is greater than 
God" must be overcome within the body physical ...
   Could I, as one who now understands the issues of my mother ... (and because of that 
understanding finds nothing that needs forgiving ...) respectfully suggest that Male and Female 
should look beyond the superficial issues they have with one another ... to the attitudes and 
beliefs of the mother who made them ... and at the same time, look at how many of their own 
resentments were inherited from the parental role model??
   The relationship between Male and Female in partnerships degenerates into a series of 
reactions based on the Matriarchal influences on both sexes ... these reactions come from the 
body ... and unless the nature of imprinting is understood, the physical body will cease being the 
life support system for the head ...
With Respect
Christopher Wynter, Hobart Tasmania
wynter@bigpond.com
http://www.anunda.com

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5699
From: Anni Ida West
Subject: Re: Tolerance (OT)
***
The seeds of truth will sprout at last
- a friend have sowed them in the past -
and though you might not see this deed
your words could well have been the seed.
***
I thank you , John, with love and light
for sharing all your joy and fight.
Beloved John, to you I send
a "HUG" and love as keyster friend.
Anni

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5700
From: J J Dewey
Subject: Sex and Knowing God
   I think you'll find this next chapter interesting. We'll backtrack soon and cover more details from 
previous questions.
THE MOLECULAR RELATIONSHIP
Copyright by J J Dewey
CHAPTER SEVEN
SEX AND KNOWING GOD
   As we arrive at the cusp of the New Age men and women are asking questions about the right 
use of sex as they never have before. Many have broken off from the authority syndrome and are 
trying to decide for themselves concerning the use of sex.
   Let us shed some light on this subject which has, in the past, been approached with such 
philosophical obscurity. To comprehend the answers one must understand the purpose of 
marriage and sex as it applies to man and woman.
   The Bible gives us some help here. In the Old Testament Hebrew two words are translated as 
"man." The first is ADAM and the second is IYSH. ADAM is sometimes translated as "man" and 
sometimes literally as "Adam." ADAM is not the name of a person, but of a racial being that is the 
hermophrodidiac combination of male and female in the image of God: "Male and female created 
he them; and blessed them, and called THEIR name Adam, in the day when they were created." 
Gen 5:2 On the other hand, the word IYSH refers to the single male only.
   The word ADAM should not have been translated "man" as IYSH was for it refers to a certain 
type of man. Genesis 2:26-27, where we have a description of the sixth creation day, is an 
example of ADAM being translated as "man" in all Bibles. Let's transliterate ADAM as it reads in 
the Hebrew as "Adam" and see how it reads: "And God said, Let us make Adam in our image, 
after our likeness...So God created Adam in his own image, in the image of God created he him; 
male and female created he them."
   This scripture is especially interesting when we read it in the light of the next chapter which tells 
us that "on the seventh day God ended his work..." Gen 2:2 On the seventh day, then, we are told 
that the "end" or last work of God was the creation of woman. She was taken out of the man and 
brought to him: "And Adam said, This is the bone of my bones, and the flesh of my flesh: she 
shall be called woman because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father 
and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Gen 2:23-24
   If woman was not created until the seventh day then who was the female mentioned as existing 
during the sixth day?
   The amazing answer as we shall illustrate is that the male and female were united in one body 
during the sixth day and were divided in two on the seventh day.
   Enlightenment on this mystery is revealed in the Hebrew word for God. In the first part of 
Genesis ELOHIYM is used. This is a strange word because it is plural and has been literally 
translated as "Gods." The mystifying part is that it is used with a singular verb. In other words, if 
the first part of Genesis were translated literally it would read: "In the beginning Gods creates the 
heavens and the earth." Translators have generally used God (singular) for ELOHIYM because of 
the belief in one God and it also goes with the verb. On the contrary, we know that God is not 
singular because later it reads: "And God (ELOHIYM) said, Let US make ADAM in our image..." 
Thus we see that God is more than one entity and Adam was made in its (or their) image.
   How is God plural? This is indicated in the word itself. The first part of the word is EL and is 
masculine and means "strong." The second part of the word is thought to come from ALAH which 
means "to covenant." This part of the word is feminine. It also is thought by some scholars to 
correspond to the name of the Muslim God "Allah." If we place the meanings together we can say 
that ELOHIYM, or God, means "strong covenant."
   If we add the fact that the male and female genders in the word indicate the "us" that makes the 
word plural are a male and female united we can say that God, or ELOHIYM, is "a male and 
female united through a strong covenant."
Verily, this is the power that created the heavens and the earth and in this light the first verse of 
Genesis could be translated as: "In the beginning male and female energies united by strong 
covenants (or bonds) to create the heavens and the earth."
   This agrees with our previous statement that all manifested form was created through the 
marriage of opposing energies of the one wavelength.
Genesis continues and tells us that God made Adam in his own image "male and female created 
he them."
   God, who is male and female united by a strong covenant, created Adam, who was the image 
of God, or male and female united by a strong covenant...
   This first Adam was created out of the non-physical (from our point of view) ethers and was like 
a living cell with male and female united into one. He was a reflection of the Divine 
Hermaphrodite God with all the capabilities of reproduction.
   The "Fall" occurred shortly after man was divided into two sexes. At this point, his energies 
became out of balance and the Adams fell away from the powers of godliness that was their 
divine right. These powers can only be regained by a person cleaving (making a strong covenant) 
unto his opposing energy and becoming "one flesh" as they were before the Fall.
   The greatest of masters, the Christ, made a comment on this: "The Pharisees also came unto 
him, tempting him, and saying unto him, 'Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every 
cause?' And he answered and said unto them, 'Have ye not read, that he which made them at the 
beginning made them (the Adams) male and female (hermaphrodites), And said, For this cause 
(because they were in the beginning male and female in one) shall a man leave father and 
mother (leave the separate duality), and shall cleave unto his wife: and they twain shall be one 
flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore, God hath joined together, 
let not man put asunder.
   "They say unto him, 'Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement and to put 
her away?'
   "He saith unto them, 'Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, suffered you to put away 
your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.' " (Matt. 19:3-8)
   Jesus understood the fact that man was in the beginning a hermaphrodite, that male and 
female could not get divorced and that man must eventually evolve back to that state. To initiate 
evolution in that direction, man and woman must unite themselves through a strong covenant like 
the ELOHIYM and represent, as close as possible, "the image of God".
   To make such a strong covenant that can survive even death and continue into eternity, God 
must join the couple together. When the two are both at the correct state of evolution so they can 
balance each other's energies, they can, as previously stated, receive a soul confirmation on 
each other. Without this godlike confirmation, God has not placed them together and divorce may 
actually be advisable. But if the confirmation is received, then a marriage covenant should be 
made that should never be broken by the will of man, for what God puts together should only be 
separated by God, if separated at all.
   The marriages throughout the world should be rearranged so each one is confirmed by the 
powers of godliness working through the soul; then they should not be separated by the little wills 
of man, but should seek continually the divine male and female union as if in the image of God.
   Jesus continues to expand this principle: "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his 
wife, except it be for fornication (her heart is not with her husband), and shall marry another, 
committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away (unjustly) doth commit adultery. 
(See previous explanation). His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, 
it is not good to marry.
   "But he saith unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For 
there are some eunuchs (those who do not marry and have sex) which were born from their 
mothers' womb (these are they who are unable to consummate sex): and there are some 
eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men (men who were castrated): and there be eunuchs, 
which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to 
receive it, let him receive it." (Matt. 19:9-12)
   The third category of eunuchs are those who have not received a soul confirmation to marry yet 
retain all their procreative parts; in other words, they have not been joined together by God to the 
opposite sex. Jesus said that all people cannot "receive this saying" or incorporate it into their 
lives, but those who cannot find a suitable marriage partner for an eternal bond should be a 
Eunuch for the Kingdom of God. He should covenant not to marriage but toward the kingdom of 
God and fulfilling the purposes of God. To be a true eunuch, he would abstain from sexual 
intercourse until God, through his soul, joins him with a marriage partner.
   As Jesus said this concept is not for everyone who is single, but only those who are "able' to 
receive it. Nevertheless, he who does become a eunuch for the kingdom of God will obtain great 
power to focus his spiritual energies.
   What is the core principle as to what is right and wrong with sex? Humanity has long cried out 
for an answer and none has been delivered. Nevertheless, mankind needs to know, for if he has 
not a sure guide, he will not be able to choose correctly and will always follow the path of least 
resistance. To tell a person who desires sex that "God thinks it's a sin" does not carry the needed 
weight in this enlightened age. Therefore, let us seek the true principle.
   In ancient days, sexual intercourse was described by the Hebrew word YADA, or the Greek 
work GINOSKO, which meant "to know". When a man had sex with a woman, he was said to 
have "known" her. Here are several examples: "Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the 
angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife: And KNEW (GINOSKO) her not till 
she had brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name Jesus." (Matt. 1: 24-25)
"And Adam KNEW (YADA) Eve his wife, and she conceived and bare Cain." (Gen. 4:1)
"And Cain KNEW his wife and she conceived..." (Gen. 4:17)
"And Adam KNEW his wife again and she bare a son, and called his name Seth." (Gen. 4:25)
   This word is especially revealing when we examine it's use in the following verse: "And this is 
life eternal, that they might KNOW (GINOSKO) thee, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom 
thou hast sent." (John 17:3)
   Other references are: "Then Manasseh KNEW that the Lord he was God." (II Chron 33:13)
"They KNEW he was the Christ." (Luke 4:41)
"Be still and KNOW that I am God." (Psalms 46:10)
"All shall (eventually) KNOW me, from the least to the greatest." (Heb. 8:11)
"I am the good shepherd, and KNOW my sheep, and am KNOWN of mine. As the Father 
KNOWETH me, even so KNOW I the Father." (John 10:14-15)
   All these quotations are translated from the same equivalent Hebrew or Greek word.
   Why was the ancient method of expressing sexual intercourse the same as that used for 
establishing spiritual intercourse with God or the Christ? Is there something similar about a 
person knowing his opposite and man knowing God?
   Christ even presents an interesting correspondence of sex when he says: "If any man hear my 
voice and open the door, I WILL COME IN TO HIM, and will sup with him and he with me." (Rev 
3:20)
   When a man has sex with a woman there is produced union of the divided sacral energies. This 
produces a "knowing" of each other, a high physical sensation. Since each of us are a part of the 
projection of God, then we can know God by knowing our other half that completes that 
projection. The two halves are united and we finally know the whole, or the "one flesh" in the 
physical sense.
   The sacral and the solar plexus centers, which influence our desire energies, unite during the 
average sexual act and produce high physical and emotional stimulation during above-average 
sex.
   These two, however, are the lowest centers of feeling and are a mere reflection of the feelings 
of God, or the feelings of our highest attainable human consciousness.
   The next major center, which is higher than the sacral and solar plexus centers, is the heart 
center, which projects love-wisdom energies. It is the center of the Christ consciousness and 
sends out the energy of pure unselfish love. Less than 10% of humanity are able to have interplay 
of a significant degree with this center, but those who do will know the meaning of spiritual sex. 
The sensations and knowing are on a higher plane. The feelings are much more spiritual and the 
sensations much more fulfilling. Those who do not share the heart energies will always feel that 
something is lacking in their sex life even if they reach a full physical climax with each act.
   The sharing of the heart energies in their fullness is higher in exquisiteness than the sharing of 
the lower energies, just as the moon is brighter than the stars in light.
   The highest major area to be shared is the head centers, or the world of the mind. The heart 
centers can be shared when people advance into the higher use of the mind. These people have 
understand how to work with mental substance and have learned the use of common sense and 
unselfish love. The head centers cannot be shared to a great degree until both parties move up to 
the world of the intuition where they become one in vision. Here they open up communication 
with the God Within and commune with the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost, a great trinity of 
sharing. These sensations are higher than any sexual experience man has imagined. The mind 
sensations are higher than the heart just as the sun is higher than the moon, and a grand 
celestial knowing and union at three levels are experienced that goes far beyond any result 
produced by a sensuous sex manual.
   When a couple have known each other on these three levels, their consciousness has then 
together entered the presence of God. This conscious sharing from the solar plexus, heart and 
head energies then continues at all times when they act and think in oneness, even when they 
are not having sex. The sexual act merely serves as a source of recharging these energies and to 
remind the couple of the threefold union they should share 24 hours a day, even in each other's 
absence.
   This, then, is the ideal that all men and women are driven to seek: Union in the three worlds 
until the presence of God is entered, and Christ and eventually the Father come into the union 
and "sup" with them. The Father and the Son will be one and we will be one with them.

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5701
From: "Jennifer Hampson"
Subject: Poetry and Prose
   Yes, you've done it again John - it's such a gift you have - thank you for sharing it with us. And 
JJ, I am finding The Molecular Relationship so very deeply satisfying.
Love
Jennifer

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5702
From: Paul Yu
Subject: Re: Selecting A Mate
   Rick Audette writes: "The lack of adequate femininity seems to lead me to manufacturing my 
own, but I know I am only creating a plastic model of the real thing and would drop it, in a heart 
beat, if the real thing came along. I benefit from playing at it, because I play it well and can gain, 
from my own self, what is lacking in the real world."
Hi Rick and everyone,
   What you have described of the measures you took in dealing with the sexual energies, Rick, is 
precisely the path of evolution. It seemed incidental not being able to find adequate femininity in 
your environment so much so that you had to create a plastic model of the real thing. But it 
conformed perfectly with the evolutional model.
   Once you balanced the polarized sexual energies within yourself the real thing would appear 
out there so you could express on the outside what you had achieved on the inside.
Paul Yu
SpiritualityABC
SpiritualityESOTERIC
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Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5703
From: Marylin
Subject: Re: Selecting A Mate
   J J Dewey writes: "Question: Rick brings up an interesting point of discussion. There are many 
who are in male bodies who feel a strong pull in the female direction and many in the female who 
feel a strong pull in the male. We have given hints as to why this is so. What do you think?"
   I think that those of us in the female body with a strong or lesser pull to the male side have 
chosen to be in a female body in this life because we have leaned a bit too much to the male side 
in previous incarnations. It is necessary to balance this out. This would be vice versa for one in a 
male body. To lean either way, too much, leaves us in an unbalanced situation that can cause 
problems with a mate.
Love, Light, Peace and Harmony
Marylin

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5704
From: John Kosior
Subject: Sex and Knowing
Hi Folks,
   Well, you'll be happy to know that I'm over my little rhyming phase. (for now anyway :) It's funny 
that I literally spent 5 or 6 hours while working with a continuous stream of just such verse 
working through my mind. It got so annoying to me that I wrote the second installment until I 
burned it all out. Once again, thanks for being there and thanks each for your response. It's good 
to have a home to share the crazed energy with. 
   I wanted to respond to this latest chapter. But rather than the content, I'd rather respond to the 
approach JJ uses to the bible. Simply put, it seems we are examining the scriptures from just the 
place we need to for understanding. For many many years, we have all been inundated, or 
people tried to inundate us, by folks who believed that they "knew" the bible, and all of its 
mysteries. And I believed and followed for a time all of their limited views. But it was within that 
time that I began to see that within the scriptures are a whole other set of principles that on the 
surface appear to be contradictory to all that I had been taught.
   Now some have used this realization to disregard the entire message of the bible, (or at least 
the parts they didn't like) but I kept a thought that there must be some unifying principles that I 
just don't see that tie it all together again. This is what I see JJ doing with all of the teachings, and 
in particular, his handling of the old and new testaments. In this regard, I just remembered about 
a site I found called Embracing The Contradiction that is a point blank focus on seeing that the 
dualities that exist in the scriptures are there for our greater understanding when we reach 
beyond our 2D beliefs. And that far from being called inconsistent or contradictory, these dualities 
combine to paint a picture too magnificent for mere words. This I have found, and this is what I 
see from JJ. I'm so glad to have the chance to be here.
Thanks All, And as always,
Blessings,
John

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5705
From: (Richard/ Sharon)
Subject: Tolerance OT
   I have known since we joined this list, that we had found a rare and magical place, filled with 
wisdom that would help and allow me to grow, but now thanks to John & Anni, i see how limited 
my views were. Thank you both. much love, sharon (simply, and sincerely said, but i just can't 
rhyme) ^I^ ^I^

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5706
From: Norman Fleshman 
Subject: Elohim
   I seem to have used an inappropriate E address earlier...so, if this is a repeat...my apologies....
   J. J........I Really like the explanation that you give, regarding "Elohim". Annalee Skarin says of 
the word " Elohim"...that it is "the masculine plural of a feminine noun", that means......God and 
His mate. That has not been an easy one for me to grasp. What you have just shared, if I 
understand you correctly, says the same thing, but gives much more depth of meaning to it. 
Taking the masculine plural to refer to thoughts...or, ideas, or, images we imagine, and, the 
feminine noun, to be the name of a "thing"...namely ...feeling....THE feeling (the only one needed, 
ie; hope singing in our (feminine) hearts,..e have the confirming of, reality of, or fulfillment of...the 
idea(s), image(s), hope(s), (that is the masculine plural) by the feminine noun.singular..the single 
feeling of hope singing in our hearts. In taking both, male/female, together, as one, we have the 
simple creativeness of thought(s) and feeling...joined as one...saying as one..I AM. (Whole, one, 
complete, entire.) Which seems to be precisely what Elohim denotes...An individual, or a state of 
awareness, where wholeness, allness, awareness of being fulfilled, complete, entire, is 
"KNOWN", (as J.J. has so beautiful spoken of.) I trust this is consistent with what J. J. is talking 
about. ( In this group of great thinkers, I'd settle for "close" to what J. J. is talking about. *S*)

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-21/5707
From: Vignir
Subject: Selecting mates
   Warm greetings to you all from Iceland!
   This is my first time here although I've been reading your letters for the past few days. I want to 
thank JJ Dewey for his article on Selecting mates. I found it very interesting. Just a few thoughts 
on being gay:
   JJ Dewey wrote. "And what about gays? What kind of charge in energy would males and 
females have in this situation and why?"
   John wrote: "These folks are those who have convinced themselves that they need not receive 
balance from the "opposing" energy of the opposite sex."
   Although I'm gay at this moment in time I don't think that I have convinced myself that I need 
not receive balance from the "opposing" energy of the opposite sex. I love to be in the company 
of women (my x wife and daughter for instance) and am thankful for all the balance I get from 
their energy...but still I prefer to live with my boyfriend who, by the way, also gives me a lot of 
balance.
   Here is a wild guess, but it's something I was once taught by another teacher in the past. Let's 
say you are on life 500, and you just spend the last 350 as a female. Then, suddenly, you decide 
you are going to be male.
   Dave wrote: "in this life. The transition from female to male could be anything but smooth. It 
may be difficult for the individual in question to accept their life as a male, and they may still feel a 
strong pull from the female side. So it may take a couple of lives as a male to get used to the 
concept. This could also explain gays. After being female for so many lifetimes, and choosing 
male, they may still feel a strong attraction to the male sex. After a lifetime or two as a male, the 
physical attraction to the opposite sex should become so strong they can no longer resist it, and 
they should be realigned with their true male energies.
   Here is another wild guess! What if after 500 lives of learning and evolving, both from male and 
female energy/incarnations one decided to try out a gay lifestyle for no other reason than to learn 
and evolve a bit more! Just a thought!
Bless you all
Viggi

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-20/5708
From: (Richard/ Sharon)
Subject: Selecting Mates
   Welcome Home Viggi, its nice to see the table filling up. Looking forward to seeing more of your 
thoughts and insights. You'll find us an interesting family. Love & Light, sharon & richard ^I^ ^I^

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-21/5709
From: Rick Audette 
Subject: Re: Selecting mates
   "Here is another wild guess! What if after 500 lives of learning and evolving, both from male and 
female energy/incarnations one decided to try out a gay lifestyle for no other reason than to learn 
and evolve a bit more! Just a thought! Bless you all Viggi"
   Interesting thought, Viggi. Reminds me of something that happened last week end. A friend of 
mine invited me to a party, held by a BDSM club that he belonged to. In the past, I would never 
have gone to such a thing, but lately, I find it harder to say who is not my brother and undeserving 
of my love, if ya know what I mean. So, I go to this party and ouch, it hurt just to watch the way 
some of them liked to play. But, I chatted with a number of them and found that the motivation, 
behind their behavior, wasn't anything like I would have guessed. It may not be the way you or I 
would go about it, but these people were still looking for love, in the best way they could manage 
and who am I to say they won't find it. I like to tell people that yes God is in church, but He is also 
everywhere else too. I find Him everywhere I look now, even under that rock I turned over. And, 
just maybe, some helpful, curious comment, made by a cute transvestite from Plano, Texas, 
might help lead them to the truth in a way no words from a pulpit ever could. Say what you like, 
about me, but my Master was said to keep company with sinners and I look to follow His 
examples. And, they say, He went to hell itself to free men's souls. It's still a stretch for me, but 
I'm learning, good/bad, light/dark, regardless of where we find our lessons, we are all God's 
children and that makes us all brothers and sisters.
Love you all,
Rick
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Even when it doesn't hurt you
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Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-21/5710
From: J J Dewey 
Subject: Correct Use of Energy
   Good to see some new blood posting - Norman, Vignir and others. Vignir is our first member 
from Iceland and his comments are definitely headed in the right direction and I will expand on 
them later.
CHAPTER EIGHT
CORRECT USE OF ENERGY
Copyright By J J Dewey
   We now are laying a foundation of knowledge that will help us understand what is good and evil 
in sex, but one more important point must be understood: we must define the core principle 
behind that which produces good and that which produces evil at this time.
   Since we are in a state of evolution, good is that which tends to accelerate us toward union with 
God and/or our fellow men and women.
   Evil is that which causes us to separate ourselves from God, our souls, or our fellow men and 
women.
   It has been said that there is only one sin . . . the sin of separateness.
   Does this mean that we should have sex with anyone who is willing in the hope that we can 
share a union with many souls and move away from separateness? No. This idea is part of a 
great illusion. Casual sex leads to separateness and greatly hinders union in the three worlds. 
Therefore, it is "evil", or a mistake. The commandments given in the scriptures condemn casual 
sex because the Guides of the race know that it leads to separateness and not union.
   When a person engages in casual sex with whoever is willing, there is generally only a sharing 
of the sacral energies and sometimes a partial sharing of solar plexus energies.
   When a person is more selective about his sex partners and tries to pick only those with whom 
he feels some affinity or "love" toward, then there can be close to a full sharing of both sacral and 
solar plexus centers.
   Most of humanity has settled for this second level of fulfillment. We feel inside that there is 
something more, but know not how to obtain it. It is like a dream that we are prepared to not have 
fulfilled. As a person evolves, however, he finds that his deep feelings were not a dream and 
when he tastes the joys of the higher unions, he finds that nothing in heaven or hell will stop him 
from finding the right mate and entering into the full joy of the Lord.
   Before a person can enter into the higher unions, certain laws must be followed. The joys of 
God are not found on the broad path, but on the so-called "straight and narrow". Before there can 
be a union of the heart centers, the aspirant must learn to master the emotional energy streaming 
from the solar plexus. This emotional energy must be subject to the control of the mind. Before 
the mind energies can be shared, the mind must be dominated by the intuition. The mind must be 
subject to the control of the soul energies, or the God Within. The mind must not "slay the real" 
with its concrete reasoning, but must be subject to seeing and understanding the real and the true 
as presented through the intuition, or communication from the God Within, the source of all true 
principles.
   If one has only shared solar plexus and sacral energies and desires to also enjoy heart 
energies, he must do two things. First, he must find a mate who is at the correct point of 
evolution, as previously discussed.
   Secondly, he must subject all the desire energy of the solar plexus to the control of the mind. 
Only in this way can the blazing fires of the desire center be sublimated and directed to the heart. 
The heart energy then circulates and much greater union becomes possible.
   To circulate and blend the heart energies during and after sex, a strong commitment or 
understanding must be made and faithfully kept between the male and female. Sex without a 
commitment only stimulates the desire energies, which drown out the finer vibrations of the heart. 
This is why the revelations from God to man have always encouraged him to make covenants 
with his mate and have put great emphasis on not breaking them. These commandments about 
the sex act were designed to inspire greater union.
   Without a covenant or strong understanding, the desire energy overshadows the heart energy. 
Secondly, without a commitment, there cannot be a full sharing, even if some heart energies are 
active; strong desire energies feed many personality fears that cause partners to throw up walls 
of protection from hurt. These are walls of separation. Without a covenant and trust, people fear 
union and fear to share all their energies because if those energies are suddenly withdrawn, great 
hurt automatically follows. Thus, all those who have casual sex with no commitment create 
barriers of negative energy that militate against a full sharing of the heart - all because they are 
afraid of being hurt.
   To prepare oneself for a full sharing, one must mentally accept the possibility of being hurt, be 
prepared to deal with it if it comes, and then dismiss it from the mind. Then one must make a 
covenant (marriage or private covenant) with someone whom he believes he can trust. Then he 
should make a concentrated effort to lower all the protective walls and maintain a full 
communication and sharing. If both parties feel secure in their covenant, are matched with the 
correct mate, and control desire by honoring their agreement, they may experience the sharing of 
the higher heart energies. During intercourse, they should make a concentrated effort to release 
the pure energies of love from the heart with no inhibition.
   In some cases there may be a sharing with no vocalized covenant. The understanding both 
parties have with each other may create the same trusting effect as a covenant. For instance, 
both parties may have a silent understanding that they will be faithful to each other. The soul may 
look upon this in the same way it looks upon a covenant, but it is rare for a silent understanding to 
create the same effect as a vocalized covenant, which creates spheres of trust and 
understanding.
   In another light, we can say that to raise the sharing energies to the heart center, sex, as well 
as other energies, must be directed toward Purpose. Purpose is the unifying energy of God and 
Purpose is only expressed in actions that lead toward union with God or union with each other, 
which leads toward God. Purpose is like an eternal stairway where each action is a step which 
leads to another and still another without end, until Union is achieved. If you see an action ending 
with only one, two or three steps, then you know that action fills a finite objective and does not 
represent the true energy of Purpose.
   On the other hand, if an action is only one step on an infinite stairway with no end in sight 
Purpose is being represented.
   If one has sex to merely fulfill desire, then the steps created by the action shortly reach an end 
and the objective is fulfilled. The energy is then dissipated and sent back to the solar plexus 
center where the energy of desire is recharged and sent out again on a blind mission seeking 
fulfillment.
   When the energy of desire is controlled by the mind and the mind is directed by the soul, then 
the desire energy is directed upward toward the heart and head, and this creates a step on the 
eternal stairway of Purpose; thus, heart energy begins to circulate and two people may share a 
higher union enveloped in the Love of God. Once it is felt in fullness, desire will never hold the 
pilgrim completely in its chains again. He will see the benefits of mastering desire. Even a 
spiritual person must see some benefit before he will proceed upon the path of return.
   Very few people ever completely master desire as it is expressed through sex, money, and 
power because the energies directed toward separateness and selfishness are strong indeed. To 
be mastered, all desire connected with these energies must be directed by the mind toward the 
greatest universal good one's consciousness can comprehend.
   Concerning sex, the solar plexus will say: "I have desire-love toward you; therefore, it is good 
that we join together in sex."
   The mind directed by the soul will sense this language of the lower energies as saying: "I desire 
you because you fulfill some of my needs and I want you to fulfill that desire not tomorrow, but 
now."
   If the mind's translation is correct, then sex will not produce a sharing of the heart energies, for 
only an object of satisfaction is sought, and there is no connection with the eternal stairway of 
Purpose. To make this connection, the mind directed by the soul must say: "I will have sex with 
you when I see a possibility of making the act a step on the eternal stairway of Purpose. I will 
have sex when eternal union with no walls is the goal. This can only be insured by a timeless 
covenant. When this is the case, the energies of pure unselfish Love will surround us and we will 
achieve fulfillment few humans have known."
Concerning money, the solar plexus will say: "I want to provide for my family and give them all the 
finer things in life they deserve; I want my children to have those things I never had as a child".
   The mind directed by the soul will interpret this as: "You want money only for your own 
pleasure. Even the things you want for your family are so you can have greater personal 
fulfillment. Your goals concerning money are mere objectives that will have a separative end. . .
   To direct money toward Purpose, one must seek a way to use it so it does the greatest good for 
the largest number of people. It is true that one must have enough money for personal and family 
needs before giving to other causes, but one must raise higher than just personal gratification if 
he is to fulfill Purpose and control desire. He must seek some action with surplus money that will 
in some way, great or small, benefit the whole world, and aid mankind toward the path of Union. 
A covenant can also apply toward money and aid in the conquest of desire. To achieve this, a 
person should make a strong individual or group commitment or promise to consecrate all his 
surplus money to some effort that will further the evolutionary development of mankind. This is a 
completely selfless act and tends to transmute the lower desire energies into heart energies that 
can lead to oneness.
   Concerning power, the solar plexus will say: "I want power to assert myself in areas where I 
have leadership abilities and to have the freedom I need to carry out responsibilities related to 
these abilities. People like myself are natural leaders. Others need us to direct and guide them."
   The mind directed by the soul will interpret this as: "My desire nature seeks freedom for its own 
expression only, even at the expense of others. It wants to feed its pride and be recognized by 
men and women as being important and special. It wants to exert authority over other men and 
women even against their will, believing that it knows what's good for them better than they know 
themselves."
   To direct power toward Purpose, one must use whatever authority he possesses to serve and 
not command service. He must ever remember the injunction of the Master: "He who is the 
greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven is the servant of all." He should use any power he has to 
serve to benefit the whole human race as much as possible - not just the insignificant self. The 
power and authority a person has must not be under the direction of his desire nature, or he will 
become an unrighteous dictator over his tiny realm. A man or woman's power must be under the 
direction of the mind and under the influence of the soul. This will aid the transmuting of solar 
plexus energy to the heart.
   All disciples must master the three energies of sex, money, and power and subject the solar 
plexus desires concerning them by the power of the mind, or else they will be "damned" (or 
stopped) in their progression and unable to move ahead in the realm of the soul.
   For each person, there is one particular energy upon which his desires are most centered and 
will be his greatest "temptation" to overcome. Some people are very generous and unselfish with 
their money, but are very selfish with sex and love. Others have no problem with sex, but have a 
strong desire to control and dictate to others. In still others, money is their major ruin. All people 
have some pull from their desire nature to use all three energies incorrectly, but there is always 
one that is a special problem to them.
   Of the three energies, sex is the hardest to put in the right perspective because error in the 
misuse of sex is difficult to pinpoint and realize. Few have all the money and power they want but 
most have opportunities to misuse sex, and sooner or later we are all tempted to do so.
   The sex urge is basically the urge toward union with the Divine. It is that power that attracts 
spirit and matter and creates form for incarnating lives. All lives that do not express desire in the 
sexual relationship yet follow the natural flow of nature are under no "sin". The problems 
concerning sex are always centered around that part of humanity that has little or no initiative to 
subject desire to the mind.
   Keep in mind that we admonish control of the desire nature and not suppression. Suppression 
of desire is very dangerous, for a desire suppressed will always surface again with greater 
strength. When desire is controlled and directed by the mind under direction of the soul, it is not 
suppressed. Often desire will be less inhibited than ever, for the mind is wise enough to always 
find an outlet for desire and recognizes that desires should be fulfilled according to law, but they 
must be directed so their expression is constructive and harmless. To become harmless, the 
desire nature must be checked periodically by the mind and then redirected in paths of greater 
fulfillment.
   A person whose desires are not subject to the mind/soul will always feel somewhat unsatisfied 
whereas one who subjects his desires will ironically have greater and more intense fulfillment of 
them.
   It is a giant step in the progression of the soul for one to control desire with the mind. It is a 
difficult step, but it produces a giant leap in the expansion of consciousness of the individual and 
places him in spiritual contact with a group of other lives who have "overcome". The feeling of 
loneliness one sometimes feels begins to fade and is replaced by a group life force. Now the 
intuition begins to develop at a fast pace, and the person begins to develop power to initiate 
spiritual causes. Thus, he or she is called an disciple as well as an initiate.

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-21/5711
From: Marylin
Subject: Re: (OT) More Verse
Hugs to you John
   Your verse is beautiful.....not just in words.....but in the way it gets down to the bare truth. I live 
in a household of souls who smile but only to pick at and degrade. And it is painful to watch them 
deny who they really are. Through this most valuable list I have learned how to deal with this. I 
smile a lot, I laugh a lot, I ignore a lot and I sing the song a lot. It seems my mission here is to be 
an example more than to talk. Keeping my mouth shut is not the easiest thing in the world for me. 
But I am learning too.
   Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. 
Love, Light, Peace and Harmony
Marylin

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-21/5712
From: J J Dewey
Subject: Questions
My friends,
   I received some interesting questions directly from Rick and Glenys that I feel that may also be 
in the minds of others on the list, so I received their permission to post them here.
   First, let me say that it is commendable that group members are putting what their soul says to 
them above me as a teacher. All souls are one and when we all speak the language of the soul 
together we will see as one body. But even those who do their best to retain soul contact can 
question and disagree because of incomplete communications.
   I love the Rick's attitude in his questioning. He is not challenging me or trying to show any 
superior intelligence, but just shows a sincere desire to find the truth and to serve. What more 
could a teacher ask for?
   Now I'll quote from his letter:
   "... I'm hoping you will provide more information, on the subject. My soul tells me that I can still 
be complete by being a bride of Christ. It also suggests that it may be possible to link up with 
one's "soul mate" without actually being together physically."
   I'm sure your soul is guiding you correctly here. Sometimes when our soul points a direction, we 
cannot see all the ingredients in the upcoming path. But when that direction is followed we always 
discover that the soul pushed us gently in the right way.
   It is possible to have various types of non physical contact with a potential mate. A soul mate is, 
however, created rather than some special split off of yourself at creation. From a higher point of 
view we are all soul mates. When you find a person that you can be one with then you will have a 
mate that you can communicate with soul to soul, which is a true soul mate.
   Let us suppose you met a potential soul mate on the net or some other way. There would come 
a time that you would want to complete the relationship on a physical level.
   Completeness in relationship comes through interplay of all levels. Nevertheless, it is possible 
to go quite a distance through non physical interplay.
   "Wow" says Rick, "Either this topic has left everyone speechless or there is something wrong 
with Spiritweb today. Nobody has commented on it yet, that I can see. There is so much here that 
I wish I could have known about when I was younger. I forwarded a copy to a friend and plan to 
give copies to my daughters. I have to admit that the information has truly left me in a spin. If 
creating this "perfect" marriage bond is a prerequisite to getting into heaven, then I fear I have 
thrown this life away and have little hope of salvaging it, at my age. At 49 years old, 3 times 
divorced, a single parent and all the other stuff I've already told about, I seem to have little hope 
of ever connecting with Ms. Right."
   All of us go through many lifetimes without finding Mr. or Mrs. Right. Although it is indeed a 
heavenly experience to find a soul to soul mate there are many spiritual experiences along the 
path to this union. If you follow the highest you know at all times you will build a heaven for 
yourself right here on the earth and beyond, even though you have not found the person of your 
dreams.
   All of us have a hope of becoming Masters and overcoming all things, even death, but because 
we have not arrived there yet should not become a point of discouragement. We must smell the 
roses along the way and enjoy special moments of progress as we proceed toward the goal.
Rick continues:
   "And just how did all my heroes manage to get to such heights without the benefit of a good 
woman beside them? Was there a Mrs. Moses or a Mrs. Christ? Ben Franklin was a womanizer. 
Thomas Jefferson slept with the help. Edison had a rocky marriage. Einstein married his cousin, 
because she was a good cook. If all these great men had such a hard time of it, what chance 
have I?'
   Moses was married twice. His first wife was an Egyptian lady he married and quickly dropped in 
order to conquer her city when he was in the Pharaohs army. Later when he was on his spiritual 
quest he married Jethro's daughter Zipporah who was his faithful wife.
   Christ had several women in his life who inspired him.
   But you are right. There are numerous fairly great men who were womanizers, John Kennedy 
for one. Nevertheless, all these men who dissipated their energies will eventually have to learn to 
intelligently direct sexual energies toward union to achieve their full potential.
   Lincoln is an interesting study. He had a relationship that was much worse than no relationship. 
His wife Mary Todd was the worst first lady in history. It is said that the reason he entered politics 
was so he could be away from his wife for greater periods of time, so perhaps history would be 
greatly changed if not for his bad marriage.
   She had a terrible temper and was always embarrassing him. For example, when he was 
President and they were having an important dinner for dignitaries she threw a plate of food in his 
face because he did some small thing that offended her.
   She saw herself as co-president and asked to be called Misses President. She was also a 
spendthrift and always kept the family in debt. She eventually went insane after he was killed and 
was put in an asylum.
   Even though Abe had good reason to get something going on the side he was a faithful 
husband through all his days. If he lived in this age he would have probably got a divorce, but a 
divorce in that time would have ruined him politically and he knew it was important to fulfill his 
destiny as president.
   Even though he was a faithful husband he did have several female friends that gave him 
access to female energy which inspired him.
   If I remember right Einstein's first wife was a mathematician who was a strong motivator for him 
in coming up with the Theory of Relativity. Some believe that she actually came up with some of 
the ideas. I believe she drew then out of him.
Rick continues:
   "The latest chapter of the molecular relationship is both the best and worst news I've read in 
some time. We've just rebounded from one downswing in membership and now I wonder what 
will happen to us, when even I question if I belong here. I hope we will pause and discuss this, 
before getting any more, so that we can all have time to digest such a large mouthful. It usually 
takes a lot to rattle my cage, but this one has left me dazed. Rick"
   I'm not sure what all you are referring to here. For those of you who have specific questions I 
would hope that you ask them.
   One ting I want to clarify is that the Molecular Relationship does not require that you have an 
ideal mate. We will go into more detail in this later on as we explain how it works.
   A single person or one with a spiritually disinterested mate will pick a working non romantic 
partner to cerate male female units in the soul for the creation of human molecules. In many 
cases these couples will work together in the soul better than the married ones for they will not be 
carrying around the garbage from a bad relationship that so many have.
   I would suppose that the idea of commitment in sex is disturbing to some. Many have left the 
old time religions because of the restrictions there. There is a big difference though. The religions 
say: "do what we say because God says so."
   I am not doing this. Instead I am attempting to teach the true principle governing the ultimate 
positive use of sex, money and power. These energies should be directed to fulfill Purpose, or be 
in alignment with Purpose so the higher energies of the soul can become manifest.
   No one wants to judge the purity of your sex life. Instead what the teachers look for is your 
purity as a vessel for the higher spiritual energies. If one is governing his life with soul guidance 
then there will be endowments and manifestations of the Spirit of God through the soul. That 
which comes through you and out of you is evidence of your correct use of higher principles.
   Glenys also had some questions. She is another member of the group I really appreciate. She 
is never confrontational, but I also know that if what I teach does not register with her soul that 
she would resist anything I would say that is not in alignment until understanding and union is 
reached.
She asks:
   "If I have to develop more masculine energies to serve in a proactive, 'sending' way, then the 
chances of finding someone to balance me become even more remote. As it is, I've always 
known that one of the reasons I've never married is that I haven't been able to find someone who 
is my spiritual superior (and I don't regard myself as a 10 by any means). Is that the price women 
have to pay for being spiritually aware?"
   Answer: I know I'm going to have to give some more clarification on this for the female tends to 
think she is at a disadvantage in many ways, but she is not. The objective is to deliver teachings. 
For the male it is easiest just to throw them out to the audience, but on the female side, her 
energy is to pull out the teachings from the souls of the students. One is not more powerful than 
the other, but the male has an easier time in his energy as well as the female in hers. The trouble 
is that the female is often deceived into thinking the male energy is the better way. The female 
should only use male energies that feel natural to her and not try to force them.
   It is not only difficult for the advanced female to find a mate in suitable evolution, but also the 
male. Notice Rick's previous comments about the difficulty in finding a companion.
Glenys continues:
   "Various other comments relating to the two energies I was interested to read that a woman 
with strong male energies needs a man with strong female energies to give balance. In my 
experience, strong women seek a strong male and find men with female energies good friends 
but bad partners. I find such men boring as they don't challenge me at all."
   Keep in mind that a strong woman is not necessarily one with a lot of male energies. The 
strongest of all women are those who successfully use their female energies.
   If the female dominates with male energies then her make companion turns female as far as 
energy is concerned.
   On the other hand, she can also dominate with female energy. When she does this the male 
energy in her mate is amplified. Even so this dominated male will be a willing servant for the 
female in her energy.
Glenys also asks:
   "I was also interested in your comments about teachers choosing a male body. I have had a 
teaching urge for most of my adult life so wonder why I chose a female body this time round. 
Does it mean that if I teach and it becomes a focal point of my life that the most I can expect is to 
communicate others' teachings like Bailey did with the Tibetan? Does it mean that I will probably 
never have any original teachings of my own in this lifetime because it would require more 
'sending' masculine energies? If that's not right, then why didn't I choose a male body? I can only 
assume from what you've written that I chose it because the emphasis this time round was to be 
on learning , receptivity etc."
   Choosing a female body is a sign from your soul that you came here with the intention to learn, 
especially for the first half of your life. That does not mean that during this period you will not 
teach but it does indicate that you, in connection with your soul, saw that there were important 
lessons to learn that required that you be in the receptive female energy.
   Now if you learn the needed lessons that you set before yourself before you were born, then in 
the second half of your life you can be an effective teacher of those lessons as well as applying 
the female energy to learn new ones.
   As for the rest of your questions just remember the first key. You are Decision and you can 
become whatever it is you decide to Become. Tune into the male and female energies within you 
and use their forces to best serve the direction you wish to take.
   We'll be talking more about make and female energies as time goes on as the correct 
understanding of them is a key to the successful creative path.

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5713
From: Marylin
Subject: Re: Correct Use of Energy
   J J Dewey writes: "A person whose desires are not subject to the mind/soul will always feel 
somewhat unsatisfied whereas one who subjects his desires will ironically have greater and more 
intense fulfillment of them."
   "It is a giant step in the progression of the soul for one to control desire with the mind. It is a 
difficult step, but it produces a giant leap in the expansion of consciousness of the individual and 
places him in spiritual contact with a group of other lives who have "overcome". The feeling of 
loneliness one sometimes feels begins to fade and is replaced by a group life force. Now the 
intuition begins to develop at a fast pace, and the person begins to develop power to initiate 
spiritual causes. Thus, he or she is called an disciple as well as an initiate."
Hi JJ and All
   I, too, wondered if everybody was doing the same thing I was......trying to find their way out of, 
to understand, this very powerful message. I just read JJ's post "Questions" but I had no 
questions in the areas addressed. After having read the writings of Paul in the bible and getting 
hopping mad at him for being a chauvanist, this occurred years ago, I finally came to terms with 
his message and began to understand some of it.
   Money and sex are, at least to me, things of the world. By my own choice, I have no time for 
sex, and I wouldn't know what to do with an excess of money except to give it to someone who 
needs the financial help.
   "contact with a group of other lives who have "overcome". The feeling of loneliness one 
sometimes feels begins to fade and is replaced by a group life force. Now the intuition begins to 
develop at a fast pace, and the person begins to develop power to initiate spiritual causes. Thus, 
he or she is called an disciple as well as an initiate."
   This is the part that really threw me for one enormous loop. The deep, disparing loneliness I felt 
three and a half years ago began to fill when I got back to my active search for truth after 20 
years of drifting. Then JJ contacted me and I literally ran to the table. I have eaten so much and 
my cup is running over and the joy I now feel, even on bad days, has come forth to my 
consciousness and this alone has left me pondering and in awe. Intuition (gut feeling, whatever), 
how many times I have either ignored or deliberately chosen not to listen. Now I am deliberately 
learning how to listen without "being touched" by it in an over emotional way.
   Initiating spiritual causes........WOW Am I really comprehending this? And I can't even think 
about the last sentence yet, lest I get a big head and start aggrandizing myself. but isn't that what 
this particular lifetime is all about? We are growing, evolving, literally, into a different form of life, 
(not physically maybe) but different in that We will all have learned how to live in peaceful, loving 
ways that Christ tried so hard to teach. To my understanding, that is "The New Jerusalem".
   'scuse me while I give thanks again.
Love, Light, Peace and Harmony]
Marylin

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5714
From: Rick Audette 
Subject: Re: Questions
Ding,
   Okay, I'll be the first one to come back out of my corner, but that last round was a tough one.
   Thank you Father.....for such a wonderful teacher, I have in JJ. The chapter on correct use of 
energy nearly had me down for a ten count. Yesterday, I felt like I hadn't slept for 2 days, even 
though I got more sleep than usual. I probably had it coming, after all the cage rattling I'd been 
doing :) Now I feel refreshed and ready to go on learning and growing.
   My love and appreciation for my sister, Glenys grows even more. She was among the first of 
the Keysters that knew of and accepted all of me. She even had invited me to a "girls" night out, if 
I was ever down her way, until she saw my picture and thought I might attract more attention from 
NZ men than she. Not to worry sister, you are tops in my book and we'd make a great team in 
any endeavor together. The two of us have always stood at the leading edge in most of the 
discussions on the list. Whenever all the Keysters finally meet, in one great hall, I'm sure we'll be 
among those that are first to be identified by the rest. Love ya sis.
   Now the rest of you, jump back in and let's get moving again. It should be smoother traveling, 
now that me 'n G have cleared the trail.
Love to all,
Rick
--
ICQ 19753992
visit my web pages at http://www.ont.com/users/rea1/
have you read "The Immortal" http://www.freeread.com

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5715
From: John Kosior
Subject: Re: Questions
Hi Folks,
   Rick Audette wrote: "Now the rest of you, jump back in and let's get moving again. It should be 
smoother traveling, now that me 'n G have cleared the trail."
   Whoa boy. Respectfully I would submit that the traveling here for me has never been smoother. 
More active on all parts perhaps, but not any smoother, more important, or intriguing. The plain 
truth of the matter is that JJ hasn't been asking any of the usual questions we are all accustomed 
to. So naturally there are not so many answers coming back. That is absolutely fine with me, as I 
am enjoying this current series of teachings as much as any we have tackled in the past. I'd also 
ask that you consider this, (right or wrong :) It is easy when we are experiencing questions or 
doubts to project those feelings and actually believe that most others must be experiencing 
similar quandary. This feeling is of course amplified when we don't see the usual number of posts 
from our participants. So with that said, allow me to cast out a projection of my own and see if you 
can see that this thought has at least as much possible validity as your'n. :)
   As I have been reading and digesting these chapters from JJ, I'm struck with a sense of awe as 
to their clear definition and with the importance of the subject matter in the times we are living. So 
that when I have finished reviewing the posts, like when I close the chapter of a really good book, 
I have no expansive questions, only appreciation. And although I could comment on each of 
them, to me it would be like commenting on Shakespeare. I could do it, but why? :) The definition 
and content has already been covered in the writing. I think this position is fortified by the fact that 
when JJ actually posed a direct question (the male/female issue) comments and answers came 
flooding in as much as ever, and at that they came from new sources, new members or old who 
seldom comment. So no my friend, there is no disturbance in the force. At least not from this part 
of the world. And I suspect by the recent re-expansion of the membership here, not from many 
others. 
   Now, let's have JJ pose a direct question, or a list of them, and let's see who's projection is 
more accurate. I truly believe that things are much better out here than you have imagined. 
   Now, as for who will be highly "recognized" when we finally all meet, I will be taking it upon 
myself to recognize, as Jesus did with the woman who gave only two bits to the temple, all of 
those on the list who gave all that they could with only a few comments along the way. As well as 
those who supported the structure only in prayer and presence. How do we know that it wasn't 
these who under girded all of the efforts of the more boisterous and flamboyant among us? 
   My deepest appreciation goes out to JJ, but also to the most quiet of our family. These folks are 
all equal in my sight, because there may come a day that JJ poses a question that stumps us, yet 
allows one of these quiet ones to shine forth with delightful wisdom. It's happened before and it 
will happen again.
   So I'll say let's allow JJ to dribble the ball and set up his shot. Then when he throws it out to us 
again, I think you'll see us all grab the ball and run with it.
   Just my impressions from the sidelines. :)
With Blessings,
John

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5716
From: J J Dewey
Subject: Appreciation
Marylin, Rick, John...
   Your comments have touched my soul.
   Thanks
   And much appreciation to all of you. All your comments are fully registered by me.
   This group is taking on a life of its own and sometimes I pick up on its vibration as I believe 
others of you do.
JJ

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5717
From: Norman Fleshman
Subject: Re: Questions
   John...I salute your insight.
Norman

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-23/5718
From: Glenys Lowery
Subject: Re: Questions
   Thank you for your very generous comments, Rick. They almost make me forgive you for 
having better legs than me :-)
Love
Glenys
-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
So now he is a legend when he would have preferred to be a man.
- Jacqueline Kennedy

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5719
From: Susi
Subject: Re: My understandings of the past teachings
Hi All,
   I finally caught up on all the e-mail received over the past week and a half since family visited 
and wanted to make a few comments prior to leaving tomorrow for 5 days.
   The teachings or writings of JJ lately are quite interesting. The diagram in the first chapter with 
the circles to depict the waves is an image I have been shown through intuition many times and I 
was comforted to see them in this writing. I have had more in-depth visions and soul level 
teaching about them, but I think that those teachings are on the different levels of each circle and 
not very relevant to the wave/vibration/frequencies, being discussed here so I won't go into them 
yet, anyway I was very pleased to see them there ;-)
   On the subject of male/female energies and the facts being presented as to the separateness of 
these two energies: I have a question, many things in nature currently possess both male and 
female energies I think you wrote that JJ, and eventually all things will go back to possessing both 
of these energies just like Source (The One God). Do I have this theory correct so far?
   My main question is that I feel we all as humans posses both of these qualities and ultimately 
do not need to have a mate if we are able to utilize both of these energies and maintain a balance 
within ourselves separate from a mate, just as Source (The One God) is able too. Am I way off on 
this? I have this on a soul level and so far am unable to accept that it is just not possible to obtain 
this state in the human form. Rick's concerns of living a wasted life due to his non-attachment to a 
mate could be alleviated if the information I have received is correct and I am asking if anyone 
else has received this same or similar information (being female I receive intuitively ;-)
   Glenys put a question about the desire to be a teacher and her questioning that male energy is 
better suited for this yet she is female and still has the desire so why did she choose a female 
body this time around? (The above is from memory and may not be 100% accurately translated) 
My unsolicited thoughts on this are the following: Since the female energy is more receptive and 
intuitive I would like to suggest that prior to incarnating this time around you were very aware of 
the difficulties encountered while in human form to have (receive) information from Source (God) 
and since the old teachings and most new teachings that exist on earth at present have been 
repetitive and lost much of their value as teaching tools you knew that you would need the 
assistance and constant confirmation on a soul level from source if you where to truly 
grasp/understand the old teachings and more importantly if you were to intuitively come up with 
new unexplored methods of teaching. This is why the desire to be in female form this time around 
is so crucial because without the receptiveness of the female energy you would not have the 
advantage of the clearer more direct channel to the etheric (Source) and your teachings would 
suffer from the same old repetition of so many before you. You now have the advantage if you 
are able to tape into that male energy held within you to apply your soul level knowledge here on 
this list and in many other areas of your life and other peoples lives......I feel you already are 
teaching as much of your writing on this list reflects this.
   Now if this does not apply to Glenys, I apologize in advance if I offended, this is not an 
assumption just a thought and this thought pattern does apply to me. I choose the female form 
this time because it was a better vehicle for me to utilize in the achievement of my agreed upon 
goals here on earth this time around and while male energy may be better at sending since I 
contain both male and female energies I do not see any blockages to my teaching.
   Ok, now another question for JJ......do you believe that some people here on earth currently 
had already achieved the mastery of both energies and all other prerequisites which enabled 
them the choice of not reincarnating yet they are here now to help with the current awakening and 
volunteered to reincarnate?
   Lastly, John K., the words that flow from your mouth are so beautiful and thought provoking that 
I long for the day they will be in print for all to read.......the spiritually awakened and those that are 
asleep will greatly benefit from your experiences and workings someday and I hope that day is 
soon!
Many Blessings;-)
Susi Alexander
The Healing Hearth "http://www.healinghearth.com"

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5720
From: Rick Audette
Subject: Re: Questions
   "Now, as for who will be highly "recognized" when we finally all meet,"
John
   What I meant, was that, like celebrities seen in print and on screen, those that have spoken 
most often will attract our attention first. I for one will have a list of people that will be the first I'd 
like to meet. I don't want to start listing them now for fear of leaving out some, but it's only natural 
to want to finally meet the ones I've heard so much from.
Rick

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5721
From: Rick Audette
Subject: [semi OT] The perfect couple
   I got this from a friend today and thought it might be good for a chuckle here where we are 
discussing finding perfect mates.
Rick
---------------
Perfect Couple
   There was a perfect man who met a perfect woman. After a perfect courtship, they had a 
perfect wedding. Their life together was, of course, perfect.
   One snowy, stormy Christmas Eve, this perfect couple was driving their perfect car (a Grand 
Caravan) along a winding road, when they noticed someone at the side of the road in distress. 
Being the perfect couple, they stopped to help. There stood Santa Claus with a huge bundle of 
toys. Not wanting to disappoint any children on the eve of Christmas, the perfect couple loaded 
Santa and his toys into their vehicle.
   Soon they were driving along delivering the toys. Unfortunately, the driving conditions 
deteriorated and the perfect couple and Santa Claus had an accident. Only one of them survived 
the accident. Who was the survivor?
(Scroll down for the answer.)








   The perfect woman. She's the only one that really existed in the first place. Everyone knows 
there is no Santa Claus and there is no such thing as a perfect man...
   (Women, end e-mail here.!!!! Men, keep scrolling.)







   So, if there is no perfect man and no Santa Claus, the perfect woman must have been driving. 
This explains why there was a car accident. (By the way if you are a woman, and you are reading 
this...this brings up another point...women never listen either....)

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5722
From: Kat
Subject: Re: [semi OT] The perfect couple
   Rick, I'm fairly new to the list, so, for the most part, I've been doing quite a bit of observing. But I 
have to comment on your perfect man/perfect woman story: LOL. It's a good thing that many 
women have a sense of humour when it comes to men ragging us about our driving. (BTW, I'm a 
professional driver with an excellent driving record). The bottom line is, though, that none of us is 
perfect. Even Santa Clause.
   Thanks for the laugh! :-)
Kat

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5723
From: (Richard/ Sharon)
Subject: the perfect couple OT
   Glad to meet you Kat, feels like you are going to be a most interesting new family member. 
welcome. blessings, sharon ^I^ ^I^

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-22/5724
From: Rick Audette
Subject: Re: [semi OT] The perfect couple
   A very warm greeting Kat,
   And to all the newcomers, as well. For the benefit of all who have recently joined us and have 
yet to read all the archives, let me tell you about the things we talk about. Our main discussions 
are about the principles being taught, here, by J.J. Dewey, the author of "The Immortal". We have 
all agreed to stick as close to this as possible, but other posts are also welcome, as long as they 
somehow tie in. If a post is labeled as O.T. or Off Topic, it will be related, but not directly 
connected to the topic at hand. If the material you wish to discuss can be found on a web page, it 
is better to give the URL in your post and your opinions or questions regarding it. We are also 
interested in getting to know our brothers and sisters better, so stories about what's happening in 
your life are most welcome. We have drawn together quite a diverse group of all ages and 
philosophies. Many points of view enable us all to expand our consciousness and love, so long as 
one doesn't try to convince others that there's is the best or only way to look at things. We are a 
classroom and can get pretty intense at times, but we also are happy about the work we do and 
like an occasional humorous post to give us a break from class. You don't have to be a pro to join 
in the discussions. Your views are as important as anyone else's and we won't bite or flame 
anyone for thinking.
   Lots of us use ICQ and AOL instant messaging, so you can almost always find someone to talk 
to make friends with. I hope y'all stick around long enough to find out what a wonderful little list 
we are growing here.
Love,
Rick
--
ICQ 19753992
visit my web pages at http://www.ont.com/users/rea1/
have you read "The Immortal" http://www.freeread.com

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-23/5725
From: Glenys Lowery 
Subject: Re: My understandings of the past teachings - Susi
   Susi wrote: "Glenys put a question <snip> Since the female energy is more receptive and 
intuitive I would like to suggest that prior to incarnating this time around you were very aware of 
the difficulties encountered while in human form to have (receive) information from Source (God) 
and since the old teachings and most new teachings that exist on earth at present have been 
repetitive and lost much of their value as teaching tools you knew that you would need the 
assistance and constant confirmation on a soul level from source if you where to truly 
grasp/understand the old teachings and more importantly if you were to intuitively come up with 
new unexplored methods of teaching. This is why the desire to be in female form this time around 
is so crucial because without the receptiveness of the female energy you would not have the 
advantage of the clearer more direct channel to the etheric (Source) and your teachings would 
suffer from the same old repetition of so many before you. You now have the advantage if you 
are able to tape into that male energy held within you to apply your soul level knowledge here on 
this list and in many other areas of your life and other peoples lives....."
   Thanks for your comments, Susi. I found them to be very useful in my contemplation some of 
my choices this incarnation. I'm sure your analysis will ring true for many people.
   I also found JJ's comments useful when he suggested that I may have chosen a female 
incarnation because of specific lessons that I chose to learn that required receptive female 
energies. I have no doubts that is theory is true. I came from a difficult and abusive family and 
had to learn some essential life lessons at a very early age in order to survive - literally. My two 
brothers chose not to be 'receptive' to the lessons on offer and quickly went off the rails like the 
rest of my family and this manifested in their continuing the family cycle of abuse and aggression. 
I'm sure that being female helped me although at the time I was convinced that my brothers had 
an easier time of it as it appeared that they were coping better than I was. But because I had 
receptive female energies my pain healed whereas my brothers have never been able to come to 
terms with their past. Of course, there are other factors involved but I think the male/sending and 
female/ receptive teaching explains a lot of the dynamics.
   One thing I am sure of - I will never regret choosing to be born a woman - even though I jokingly 
accused JJ of promoting penis envy :-)
   Thanks again for your comments, Susi. They were very insightful.
Love
Glenys
-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
The day will come when, after harnessing space, the winds, the tides and gravitation, we shall 
harness for God the energies of love.
And on that day, for the second time in the history of the world, we shall have discovered fire.
- Teilhard de Chardin

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-23/5726
From: Marylin
Subject: Re: [semi OT] The perfect couple
Hi Katstar
   Professional driver.....is that OTR or racing?
Marylin

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-23/5727
From: Kat
Subject: Re: [semi OT] The perfect couple
Rick,
   Don't worry, I'll stick around and I'll do my best to observe the rules. I loved 'The Immortal', 
which is why I decided to subscribe to the list. Normally I keep a "very low" profile, preferring to 
observe/'listen', but I just couldn't resist commenting on your story.
   I love your discussions. One of the very few lists that actually talks about something!
Great to be here!
L&L
Kat

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-23/5728
From: Kat
Subject: Re: [semi OT] The perfect couple
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Hi Marilyn,
<br> Actually, it's neither. I use to race at one time, but don't any longer. At the 'moment' I'm 
a school bus driver (over the road's takes me away from home and my daughter too long). I'm 
actually a Telecommunications Manager, but decided to go back to school to obtain my degree in 
Counseling Psychology, my life path, and all that you know. :-)
<br> Thanks to everyone who has welcomed me to the list. Glad to be here!
<br> Kat

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-23/5729
From: Xavier
Subject: Re: [semi OT] The perfect couple
Hi Kat, there is a feature in any email program (I think) that allows you to choose if you send 
messages in HTML or "text only" YOu see, you sent them in HTML, that's why all these weird 
typos and codes appear.
(btw, i do welcome you to the list:-)

Post No. keys-l: /1999-29/5730
From: John Kosior
Subject: Welcome Folks
Xavier wrote: "(btw, i do welcome you to the list:-)"
And I want to add my words of welcome to each of our new members as well. There are 
some that have posted and some who haven't, but to each of you, I wish glad tidings. For such 
you've come to the right place.
Now, to the old timer. Xavier, where've you been? Enjoying the repose I suspect. As well, 
I've been thinking about some of our other oldster keysters. Too many to name, and I wouldn't 
want to leave one out, but I miss some of the voices who used to grace us with there presence. 
You all know who you are and I'd sure like it if you would pop in and say hi. The water is warmer 
when more friends are around.
With Greetings and Blessings,
John 
"The call of what is And the need for what's not
These are things which propel life"
Quoted from a personal dream.

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-23/5731
From: J J Dewey
Subject: Historian
   There is a position here awaiting the right person - that is a group historian.
   Here would be his or her responsibility:
   We have a tremendous amount of great material in our archives that I would like to see edited 
and then posted in my web page of Freeread.com.
   Someone needs to take this material and edit out all duplicating and non essential material so 
interested readers can download the essence of our discussions and enjoy a flowing read.
   When the editing is done the historian will send the writings to me and I will post them to the 
web page.
   Now this person selected is not expected to do this alone but can use other volunteer members 
to help.
   This person should have a certain amount of free time and be prepared to plunge right into this.
   If we get more than one volunteer for the job then I will pick one as a main historian and the rest 
can assist.
   Note: After about a month if nothing much has happened then I will chose another historian so 
results will be expected.
   I keep all postings from the beginning edited into paragraphs that I can forward to the historian 
so the writings do not have to be downloaded from the archives.
JJ

Post No. keys-l: /1999-07-23/5732
From: Kat
Subject: Re: [semi OT] The perfect couple
Xavier,
   Thanks for the help