Trust

1999-8-4 09:45:00

I am especially glad to see Rob's return and happy you got the printout of the postings. The jail said you couldn't have any reading material from the outside so I sent it to your home.

I enjoyed Anni's sweet spirit as she talked about communion with the lesser lives. She is indeed an example of harmlessness.

I am also glad to see that Alex is leaving behind the language of ZOR and posting in English. Hope to hear more of you.

I really enjoyed Glenys' poem. I'd like to know where she gets such good stuff.

Yes, Vignir this list is magical and the magic is just beginning. The group's interest in higher communication tells me the time is right for the us to take a journey to higher realms. I think you'll be excited when I post on it. I'll prepare it at the first opportunity. This should be a first for any internet group.

Vignir, we sent your book off a few days ago. He sent me a postcard with a stunning picture of Iceland's capital city. It looks so pristine and unpolluted.

In the meantime - here's the next chapter.


CHAPTER FIFTEEN
TRUST

We have covered the first two prime ingredients in a happy relationship:
communication and willingness to give. Trust is the third consummating key, but the first two must lay the foundation for creating this trust. One cannot fully trust someone who deceptively communicates. He will always wonder, "What is (s)he holding back from me now? Is (s)he up to something that is not communicated?" If the mate is an honest communicator, these questions will never be asked and needles suspicions will not be aroused.

If the companion is truly giving, it will tend to make the other feel secure and if a fullness of energy is sent, it will be sensed by the mate and no feeling of betrayal will enter the mind or heart. If one does not honestly communicate and become giving, he cannot expect to be fully trusted, yet such a person will demand trust more than others. Trust cannot be delivered on demand, but must be communicated.

Essentially trust is a strong reliance on a communicated virtue. We must communicate our strengths and dependability to our mate so they can trust in us.

The most important area of trust in a marriage relationship is love. Each wants to trust the other with his love and trust that love will always be returned. To secure this trust, a committed relationship becomes necessary. Thus, the two publicly state before the world in a marriage ceremony that their love for each other can be trusted and a foundation for lasting trust is laid. But if correct communication and giving is not developed, trust will be shaken and the couple will feel insecure in love which is among the most uneasy of all feelings and very disturbing to the balance in life.

After a couple develop communication and givingness, they find that the cement that holds the union is trust.

Trust in a marriage partner is not unlike faith in God, for trust corresponds to faith and the union sought with a mate is a lower correspondence to man's desire for union with God. Before man can have faith in God, he must communicate (prayer, meditation, etc.) and give (donate, serve). Then he finds he has faith or trusts his concept of God.

Each person has a reflection of God within him,. and, when this God in man and woman manifests, a great trusting relationship becomes possible.

If we are to be trusted, we need to be trustworthy. Trust must be developed among associates in life outside of the marriage relationship Groups, states and nations must learn to trust each other and be trustworthy so peace on earth, goodwill to men can be established.

Trust is an energy which is sent that is a reflection of Purpose. Trust which is built on sound principles is very magical. It causes "the law of dominating good" to manifest and sought-for events can miraculously externalize.

Trust is the driving power that moves people to oneness. It is the synthetic energy created through communication and giving.

Trust can only come after effective and honest communication is established. Keep in mind that trust can be wrongfully placed. If the Pharisees had trusted Jesus to teach orthodox doctrine, they would have been wrong. Obviously such blind trust would show a poor line of communication.

To trust someone, you have to properly understand them. If John trusts that Mary will use her grocery money to buy him a bowling ball, he will probably be mistaken. For trust to have power to cement a relationship, it has to be properly directed. The correct placement of trust is a science just as dealing with electricity is. If electricity makes the proper connection, it may light a bulb. If trust is correctly placed, it may make a union out of two people.

Sometimes, trust will inspire trustworthiness, but not always. Many people just cannot be trusted in certain areas of their lives and showing trust in them will not create an improvement. But for some persons trust can turn their lives around and they will be trustworthy merely because they feel someone believes in them. This type of trustworthiness is usually a temporary thing. Before it can be permanent, one must first be true to himself. When this occurs, then others can place faith and trust in us.

A true friend and companion is one to whom you can say: "I trust you, my friend, to always seek that which is good on my behalf and to never intentionally make an effort to cause me pain or harm."